We're getting married Labor Day weekend. Being a popular get-outta-town holiday, I want to give our guests a little extra time to make their plans to stick around town that weekend. So, when should I send them?
Our RSVP cards are another big question mark. We are musicians, 90% of our guests are our musician friends, so we're asking everyone to play music for us at our reception. Our RSVP cards, instead of having a choice of entree 1/2/3 etc., say "would you like to play music" and if so "what song". We'd like to get all of these back sooner than later so we can organize who is going to play when and with which other musicians. So, when should we ask for the RSVPs? I read that the norm is 3 weeks or so, but is it rude to ask for them as much as 6 or even 8 weeks in advance?