Couple hosting, I like to have parents names too

Sp2012

I've been scouring the search function and TK's info, but this is probably the quickest way to get an answer.  For a couple entirely hosting the wedding, is there anything wrong with including parents names on the invitation?  From what I've read, it's not necessary, but I think it would be nice.  For example :

Bride
daughter of Bride's parents
and
Groom
son of Groom's parents

request the pleasure of your company....etc.

Sp2012

Thanks for your input. 

The invitation I was looking at lists "Bride & Groom" (first names only) at the very top, and then the next lines are as I listed above, with  B&G full names.  I've seen the "together with their parents" wording, and my concern was that the "together with" would imply that our parents were contributing to hosting/paying.  Oh, also a friend had some financial help from her parents and none from grooms parents so she had her parents names but not his and his mom was a little offended. I didn't want to run into this situation.

tenofcups4me

"Daughter of" and "son of" don't imply that they're hosting or paying; simply that they're your parents. Or "together with" is kind of ambiguous enough that it doesn't really mean a hell of a lot -- it could mean the two of you are paying and just want to honor your parents by including their names or could mean that all or any combination of those listed are hosting/paying.

I pretty strongly disagree with CMGr on this one -- I DO think the invitation is an appropriate place to honor parents if that's important to the couple.

For my first wedding we did:
Bride
and
Groom
Together with their parents
Jane and John Smith
Susan and Tom Doe
invite you to...

orianita3

Ugh! I sometimes have a love/hate relationship with the advice in this particular board. I completely understand what etiquette means, and I plan to follow it 100% for things like gifts and registry, but for honoring our parents? I don't think so. I'll honor them wherever I want!
We went for the "Together with their parents" route, mostly to avoid having so many names in the invite and we are paying for 100% of the wedding. However, I loved putting that in there in a way to say thanks.....yes, they are not paying, but my mom has come to almost all my appointments, my dad has heard me blab constantly about the wedding and FI parents have done the same. Sometimes etiquette pisses me off. What about honoring the fact that they raised you well enough that you want to be grateful for it?

meganb1977

We are hosting and using the "together with their parents" wording which I think is nice to show their support (and not just the financial kind) without being too cumbersome.

Depending how much you want to spend, the stationer I used had done invitations for another wedding in which the groom's parents were brats about it and insisted on being recognized.  Instead of listing it out on the invitation they had a separate card printed to go with the invitations, with some kind of "Bride and Groom wish to thank Groom's Parents yadda yadda" wording.  So that may be another option in addition to recognizing your parents on the programs, if you want to name them without adding bulk to the wording on the invitation.

NO2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_couple-hosting-like-parents-names?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:7076213e-7650-4f9d-9a77-54b261dd9664Post:7b5e060b-8387-4b4d-9870-bf66792ac055">Re: Couple hosting, I like to have parents names too</a>:
[QUOTE]Ugh! I sometimes have a love/hate relationship with the advice in this particular board. I completely understand what etiquette means, and I plan to follow it 100% for things like gifts and registry, but for honoring our parents? I don't think so. I'll honor them wherever I want! We went for the "Together with their parents" route, mostly to avoid having so many names in the invite and we are paying for 100% of the wedding. However, I loved putting that in there in a way to say thanks.....yes, they are not paying, but my mom has come to almost all my appointments, my dad has heard me blab constantly about the wedding and FI parents have done the same. Sometimes etiquette pisses me off. What about honoring the fact that they raised you well enough that you want to be grateful for it?
Posted by orianita3[/QUOTE]

Ditto. 

abt87

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_couple-hosting-like-parents-names?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:7076213e-7650-4f9d-9a77-54b261dd9664Post:a9f918d5-0be4-410d-9b01-f070e58c0de2">Re: Couple hosting, I like to have parents names too</a>:
[QUOTE]"Daughter of" and "son of" don't imply that they're hosting or paying; simply that they're your parents. Or "together with" is kind of ambiguous enough that it doesn't really mean a hell of a lot -- it could mean the two of you are paying and just want to honor your parents by including their names or could mean that all or any combination of those listed are hosting/paying. I pretty strongly disagree with CMGr on this one -- I DO think the invitation is an appropriate place to honor parents if that's important to the couple. For my first wedding we did: Bride and Groom Together with their parents Jane and John Smith Susan and Tom Doe invite you to...
Posted by tenofcups4me[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>This seems up your alley.... I'm doing "Together with their parents" personally b/c FI parents got divorced and FFIL is recently remarried</div>

Sp2012

Wow, I never thought this would generate this number of responses!

We have decided to go ahead with the original plan.  I discussed w/ both of our parents.  My parents, who both emigrated here, felt it was nice to be on our invitations.  My FMIL, who describes herself as "WASP"y, liked it as well, and although she was brought up with the traditional etiquette of this country, she told me that when she was married she had included both sets of parents though it was very unusual for her time.

kpeters225

Sorry to answer this question with a question, but what does it mean to host (besides the obvious of paying for everything yourself). 

My FI parents gave us some money and they said this was our gift (they were going to give it to us at the wedding not realizing we'd need it now to actually pay for the wedding). The amount they gave us is about 20% of our budget. My dad is going to give us maybe 4% and my mom nothing (They are divorced).

mrsthoser

Wow, I'm so glad I'm not the only one confused with the whole wording/hosting thing! My Fi and I are pretty much paying for our wedding, with some help from my mom (as much as she can) and his mom helping pay for flowers (which is looking to ring in at a *whopping* $250-$300). So I'm guessing the way to have the invites read without offending anyone would be "together with their parents"....for the sake of etiquette.

In all honesty, its really no one's business but the bride and groom's (and whoever IS contributing) who is paying. Who's to say that just because, let's say, a bride's parents couldn't contribute much financially, that they didn't help in all other aspects? IMO the bride's parents could still be considered hosts, so why leave them (and their hard work!) unmentioned on the invitation?

side note: I do like cebrady89's idea though. It is a nice touch!