save-the-date/invitation dilemna

LB7977

Hi - I am having a dilemna regarding save-the-date magnets and invitations.  II'm getting married on July 3rd, and I sent save-the-date magnets several months ago, since it is a holiday weekend.  I sent them out eagerly to everyone on the guest list, but hadn't planned on what to do if we needed to cut the guest list.  Now I'm getting ready to send out invitations, and i'm looking at the list and realizing that there are people on the list who I have no idea why I invited them (I haven't talked to them in years, and we weren't that close to start with).  If I hadn't already sent out the magnets, I would take them off the list (trying to save money), but I feel it would be tacky to do so now.  If money wasn't an issue, I would invite them all, but unfortunately, that's not the case! 

Any advice?  Or am I stuck inviting these people?  (it's not that I don't like them, I just was too eager when making the list early in the engagement...)

aerinpegadrak

Save the date = invitation.  You'll have to cut costs in other ways.

squirrly

Assuming that you want to preserve a relationship with these folks, you need to invite them.  If you truly haven't talked to them in years, you may have a higher decline rate anyway (but don't count on that).  I would say, invite them and figure out how to accomodate them in your budget.  But, have a plan of how to address having several of them decline.  For example, if there are 10 declines, you can upgrade your linens.  20 declines = linens & bar upgraded, etc.  Talk to your vendors that are handling the things you'd like to upgrade & let them know that you might have the ability to do so once you get RSVPs and see what sort of flexibility they can give you.

AmoroAgain

This is why I think STD's are a bad, bad, bad idea.  Unfortunately, STD= Invitation.

danieliza1127

If you sent them a STD, you have to send an invitation.  You can just hope they don't come, but you still need to send it.  Odds are if you don't know why you invited them and haven't spoken for years, they will feel the same way and not really want to come anyway.

MyNameIsNot

Yep, you're stuck.  Now you have to invite them.  It would be really rude to do otherwise.

BTW, you shouldn't be getting ready to send invitations for a July wedding right now.  Invites go out 6-8 weeks ahead. 

duckie1905

If you send them an STD you must invite them to the wedding.  This is why STDs are not a good idea unless you are 100% sure of your guestlist.