A close friend of FI has been in a coma for over a year. He is not expected to ever come out of it and if he does he will be in a vegatative state. We keep in touch with his wife and their young son and she is on our guest list.
I am conflicted as to how I should address the wedding invitation. They are still married and if I were in her shoes I would like to see the invitation addressed as "Mr. & Mrs. FirstName Smith". However, many fo my friends seem to think I should address the invitation simply as "The Smith Family".
I fear that in between preparing invitations and mailing them out, our friend will pass (which is very likely). And if he doesn't, I would hate for my piece of mail with her husband's name on it to cause a breakdown after a stressful day (it's amazing what this woman goes through on a daily basis).
I feel like either way, I won't address the invitation correctly. Either she will be offended and think I have written her husband off by addressing as "The Smith Family". But at the same time, seeing your husband's name on a piece of mail surely stings a little bit.
It is a sensitive subject and I want our friend to feel welcome at our wedding. Thoughts?