Which is correct??

dmlk413

Help!  FI and I are wording are invitations as follows:

The honor of your presence is requested at the marriage of Bride to (or and??) Groom.

Do you use 'to' or 'and' in this situation?  I have no idea which one is correct! 

I <3 Seabass

I've seen it done both ways. We used "to"

You can see it used both ways here http://www.soulfulengagements.com/invitation-wording.html

aerinpegadrak

"To" is appropriate for the ceremony.  If it's for anything else (at-home reception, vow renewal) it's "and."

dmlk413

Thanks!

squirrly

You use TO for events that start before you are pronounced husband and wife.  AND is for events that start AFTER that.  So, TO is for the ceremony, and AND is for receptions, AHRs, vow renewals, etc.

The ceremony IS the marriage of the bride TO the groom.
Everything else celebrates the marriage of the bride AND the groom.

tenofcups4me

I prefer "and." To me, "to" implies it's all about the bride...come to the wedding of Jane, who is getting married TO John. Or come to the wedding of Jane AND John. Obviously it's a small detail though and I don't think it really makes much of a difference.

kristinanddan

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[QUOTE]You use TO for events that start before you are pronounced husband and wife.  AND is for events that start AFTER that.  So, TO is for the ceremony, and AND is for receptions, AHRs, vow renewals, etc. The ceremony IS the marriage of the bride TO the groom. Everything else celebrates the marriage of the bride AND the groom.
Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]

This isn't always true. The way our invite was worded "to" wouldn't have made any sense. We used:
Mr and Mrs John Smith
request the honour of your presence
at the Nuptial Mass uniting their daughter
Me
and
Groom


"uniting their daugter me to groom" doesn't make any sense

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Which is correct?? : This isn't always true. The way our invite was worded "to" wouldn't have made any sense. We used: Mr and Mrs John Smith request the honour of your presence at the Nuptial Mass uniting their daughter Me and Groom "uniting their daugter me to groom" doesn't make any sense
Posted by kristinanddan[/QUOTE]

No... actually... "to" would have made better sense. The ceremony united you to your husband.

I actually prefer "and" in most cases, but I just wanted to point that out.

EDIT: Now that I'm thinking about it more... both seem to make sense in your case. It seems like both work in most cases... :P