wording help

Reggiebride

I could use some advice ...

My parents would like to be on the invite as Tom and Jane Doe, but my future mother in law, who is widowed, would like to be on the invite as Mrs. Tom Smith. She says that would include a reference to her late husband (who passed away 20 years ago) without spelling it out that he has passed. My parents are paying but we are including both on the invite.

Would this look crazy?

Jill Doe
daugher of Tom and Jane Doe
and
Jack Smith
son of Mrs. Tom Smith

squirrly

Your parents should not come between you and your FI on the invite.  Symbolicly, that's just bad. 

Jill Marie Doe
and
Jack David Smith

together with their parents
Mrs. Jane Doe and mr. Tom Doe
Mrs. Tom Smith
request the pleasure of your company
at their wedding

tenofcups4me

I would do one or the other -- with titles or without. Because it just looks like a mistake if you do one one way and the other differently.

Personally, I'd go with your parents' wishes -- 1. they're paying 2. I hate the Mrs. John Smith construction with a passion. You can include a very nice reference to FH's father in a program and if you want mention him in the ceremony or in some sort of toast. But the invitation isn't the appropriate place for that. (FWIW, if you're using first names for your parents, mom's name goes first: Jane and John Doe.)

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

For your parents, I'd use:

Mrs. Jane and Mr. John Doe

request the honor of your presence...


... son of Mrs Susan Smith and the late Mr. Thomas Smith

Would they all go for that?

[Deleted User]

you can also try verseit.com, they have lots of examples for wording for different situations like yours

Reggiebride

Thanks a lot for the help/advice. I hate the use of Mrs. Tom Smith, it seems so old-fashioned. But I'm trying to make everyone happy on this one!