Okay, so the wedding is in August. I got mostly everything written down and planned. I'm getting ready to start ordering my stationary, but my FH hasn't given me is final invite count list. He has given me some, but no addresses or phone numbers yet. I have a very large family and he comes from a small family. Now I could go behind his back, talk to my FMIL, and get all the info from her, but he prefers to do "word of mouth" for his family and friends. He is very low key, and it's not that he doesn't want to get married. They whole family is like that... they rarely do holidays together.
My question is...
Do I go with my gut feeling and talk to FMIL for information or let him do it his way?
We are doing a plated dinner so I would need their meal selections in advance, but I'm sure FMIL can get that for me. No problem.
I was thinking about making business sized cards with our wedding website information and giving them to him to pass to his people so they could RSVP online.
What do you think or how should I handle this?
*I will be including the website info with the invites as well. He doesn't want to give invites to his people at all. He feels that if he tells them and it's important enough to them, they will either come or not. "so be it." This would be his 2nd marriage and my 1st, so i'm sure you can understand the difference in importance of actually having a ceremony.
For me, every detail is important
For him, it's whatever... "I just want to say "I do" and pray that you say "I do" too.", that's exactly what he told me.