wording on invites regarding guest attire

alikat1306

I really wish I did not have to worry about this but some people in my family and some in my fiance's family see it as no problem wearing a pair of jeans and a flannel shirt to a semi-formal wedding-if its even considered semi formal since i'm not requiring men to wear suit jackets either)
I really would atleast like it if no one showed up in jeans etc. 
What is a polite way of wording it on my invites that this is what I'm asking guests to do without coming right out a saying it?

Thanks!

I <3 Seabass

Since you're not having a black tie or white tie wedding I don't really think there's an appropriate way to address guests' attire on your invitations.

Maybe by word of mouth tell people that it's going to be a formal wedding. But aside from that I don't think you should come out and tell people that they can't wear x, y and z.

aerinpegadrak

Unless it's black or white tie or the venue has a dress code (like, guests will be turned away if they're wearing jeans or don't have a jacket), then you really can't say anything.  We have a blurb on the FAQ page of our website about attire, but that's just as much to inform guests that all other events for the weekend will be casual as that the wedding will be formal. 

If they do come in jeans, then it just looks bad on them, and it's a safe bet that you won't even notice on your wedding day.  Frankly, if you notice anything other than your FI on your wedding day, your priorities are a little screwy.

ohwhynot

Ditto PP.  There is no way to politely ask your guests to dress a certain way.  The only exceptions to this rule do not apply in your case.

alikat1306

okay thanks for the input and no i know on that day i'm not going to be concerned with how they look i just didn't know if there was a polite way to word it other than if i made it black tie...i didn't know if anyone else ever came across this situation and i'm not looking for an excuse to tell them what to wear just was looking for a nice way to nudge in their direction that majority of the people there will be dressed up...
thanks for the help and dont worry my priorities are not screwy

squirrly

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[QUOTE]Unless it's black or white tie or the venue has a dress code (like, guests will be turned away if they're wearing jeans or don't have a jacket), then you really can't say anything.  We have a blurb on the FAQ page of our website about attire, but that's just as much to inform guests that all other events for the weekend will be casual as that the wedding will be formal.  If they do come in jeans, then it just looks bad on them, and it's a safe bet that you won't even notice on your wedding day.  Frankly, if you notice anything other than your FI on your wedding day, your priorities are a little screwy.
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]

This.  Exactly.