Invite Drama: Overreaction or Rude?

ninjasgirl

The situation is that my fiance's family is refusing to mail the responce cards.  They dont do the postal service. They want to call in their responce.  How am I to keep track of 100 phone calls?!  I am offended.  I am putting so much work into this wedding, and they cant even drop a card in the mail.

squirrly

I, too, would like to understand this.  Do they have a social objection to the post office?  I mean, I assume they received the invitation, which would mean that the postal service delivers to them.  In any case - I would have your FI ask them, kindly, to please send the RSVP card back if at all possible, so as to make keeping track of things as easy as possible.  However, for those that still can't/won't, you'll need to accept phone calls.  You could also suggest that they respond via email, if that would be easier for you, but you'll need to check your spam folder frequently. 

ninjasgirl

I wish I could explain the situation better but I am at a loss for words.  All I know is my FMIL called to say they were refusing to mail the RSVP cards back.  We don't live in the middle of nowhere.  They got the invites via postal service.
I dont want to be a total bitch but I just cant imagine taking 100 phone messages when I go to school full time, I have an internship and work part time. Can you tell I'm a little overwhelmed? lol... thanks for letting me vent.

janedoe1113a

That's just weird.  But I don't think you're going to take 100 phone messages unless your FI's family is huge,

Theresa626

Wow, that's ridiculous. But, the fact of the matter is that nothing you can do will make them send back the response cards.  They'll do what they want to do regardless.  So, you might at least let them call  and save yourself the trouble of calling all of them after your due date.  Get a good answering machine and check it every day. 

NillaWafer10

Does that mean you don't have to send them a thank you card?  Can you just call and leave a message?

squirrly

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_invite-drama-overreaction-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:d1df83d4-24dd-4c0a-8616-b395c61dcd7aPost:85d2b787-56cc-43d4-a514-e7016b1a98cd">Re: Invite Drama: Overreaction or Rude?</a>:
[QUOTE]Does that mean you don't have to send them a thank you card?  Can you just call and leave a message?
Posted by NillaWafer10[/QUOTE]

Bahahahaha.  Nice one!  (Sadly, no.  Sorry.  But A+ for creativity!)

Can your FI not at least explain this to you?  By the way - did you put stamps on the RSVP envelopes?  If you didn't, then it's somewhat more understandable.  If you did. . . I'd still have your FI try talking to his mom in a few days when she's calmed down a bit.  If she's speaking for everyone your FI is related to, though - is she planning to collect their responses and then share that info with you?

psichick

maybe they feel they're "above" the postal service????

tell them to fedex it to you if it makes them feel better?

this is just so weird lol

bbyckes

That is weird.  His whole family just doesn't "do" the postal service?  Have them take the response card to FedEx. 

golden1215

I've been that horrible guest (!!!) who has called or emailed... I misplaced the invite and well, I figured the important part was them knowing my response, do I did it in anyway possible. 

100+ does suck.... but what are your options?  How do you stand your ground against something like that...??

JanoBean75

Keeping a list by my phone wouldn't work for me. I opted NOT to have a landline; my only phone is my cell. I wouldn't want to carry a list around with me everywhere.

I don't quite understand why they can't just check a box, fill in a name and drop it in a mailbox! Are there rabid dogs surrounding the mailboxes in their town? My postal carrier will take mail from me if I put it in my box. I only go to the post office if I have to mail a LOT of stuff or a package.

banana468

[QUOTE]Keeping a list by my phone wouldn't work for me. I opted NOT to have a landline; my only phone is my cell. I wouldn't want to carry a list around with me everywhere.[/QUOTE]

In that case it could be more work - but still, you can't tell a guest that if he doesn't respond your way then he's not welcome to attend.

ninjasgirl

They are just lazy. Which means they would never FEDEX...lol.  My FI is in the Army and doesn't have an impact on the situation but I'm really close with my FI's mom which has made things easier.  I told her that they could fill it out and pass it to her and I could come get them from her or she could keep a running list for their family and I would get the list from her.

I don't have a land line either... thats why I was like, "AHH!"

If I need to make some phone calls after the reply date then so be it.  I'm trying not to worry about it too much because I have plenty of other things to concentrate on.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Geez, who is too lazy to check a box and stick a card back in the mail? How do they live their lives?!

pennyduncan11

maybe you can do a wedding website where people can respond on there...