what time should i put on invite

bigl4168

My ceremony and reception are at the same place.   the ceremony starts at 6:30 with coctail hour immediatly to follow at 7.  What time should I put on my invitaions? 6 or 6:30?

banana468

Absolutely put 'half after six' as the time on your invitations.

If nothing is occuring at 6, why would you put 6 on there?  That's just lying to your guests. 

kamira87

I'm putting a half hour sooner on my invites because my family isn't punctual and neither am I. But I'm having a band serenade them while they wait

banana468

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[QUOTE]I'm putting a half hour sooner on my invites because my family isn't punctual and neither am I. But I'm having a band serenade them while they wait
Posted by kamira87[/QUOTE]

What about your FI's family?  What about  your friends?

I get that there may be a 'family culture' to be late but please understand that it's quite rude to the others.  You're essentially telling people that you have no intention to be on time.  I hope I don't have to get my hair cut after you.

Avion22

If you put 6 on your invitations, then I would probably be there at about 5:40.  If your wedding doesn't actually START until 6:30 (or probably 6:40) then I would be sitting around for AN HOUR.  Actually, I'd probably leave by 6:15, assuming that you had gotten cold feet and called off the wedding.  

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don't insult and inconvenience your guests by telling them to show up half an hour before you PLAN to start.  

And for Kamira -- if you think YOU will be late then set your watch fast or something.   Don't have your guests show up EARLY if you think you will be LATE.  That's doubly rude.   At least have your guests show up on time, and then if you're running 5-10 minutes late it's not a big deal.

aragx6

Put the time the ceremony actually starts. I'd be so annoyed if I showed up at 6 only to find out you'd never planned to actually start then.

MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE]I'm putting a half hour sooner on my invites because my family isn't punctual and neither am I. But I'm having a band serenade them while they wait
Posted by kamira87[/QUOTE]

<div>People never fail to amaze me.  </div>

LP11509

I really hope that your family realizes the importance of your wedding day and makes an attempt to be on time.  And I really, really hope that you can manage to be on time for your own wedding day.  If not, then I don't know what to tell you.  Put the time that the event actually starts on the invitation. 

Ash61612

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[QUOTE]I really hope that your family realizes the importance of your wedding day and makes an attempt to be on time.  And I really, really hope that you can manage to be on time for your own wedding day.  If not, then I don't know what to tell you.  Put the time that the event actually starts on the invitation. 
Posted by LP11509[/QUOTE]

agree 100%

bakerie

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[QUOTE]I'm putting a half hour sooner on my invites because my family isn't punctual and neither am I. But I'm having a band serenade them while they wait
Posted by kamira87[/QUOTE]
Oh, well, as long as there's music, that's cool.<div>
</div><div>...</div><div>
</div><div>Oh, wait, no it isn't.</div>

DeClue82

I've had friends put a half hour sooner on their invite. I didn't think it was rude at all. I realize that weddings never start when they are supposed to. I was actually thinking about doing the same thing! If I put 5 (and the ceremony is starting at 5:30) hopefully everyone will be seated and we can start right at 5:30...that was my thought...

banana468

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[QUOTE]I've had friends put a half hour sooner on their invite. I didn't think it was rude at all. I realize that weddings never start when they are supposed to. I was actually thinking about doing the same thing! If I put 5 (and the ceremony is starting at 5:30) hopefully everyone will be seated and we can start right at 5:30...that was my thought...
Posted by DeClue82[/QUOTE]




Your thoughts are to do something very rude.

Avion22

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[QUOTE]I've had friends put a half hour sooner on their invite. I didn't think it was rude at all. I realize that weddings never start when they are supposed to. I was actually thinking about doing the same thing! If I put 5 (and the ceremony is starting at 5:30) hopefully everyone will be seated and we can start right at 5:30...that was my thought...
Posted by DeClue82[/QUOTE]

<div>So it's okay for the wedding to start late, but you want the GUESTS to be there a half our early?  Still rude.  Sorry.   </div>

aragx6

I don't see any reason a well planned event can't start at the time told to your guests -- give or take say 5 minutes. Late people make me insane.

cbear215

I had a friend put half an hour early for an 11:00 a.m. wedding that FI and I were traveling an hour to get to.  So we left early to make sure we made it on time and got there about 10:15, which we thought was only 15 minutes early...nope.  We waited for over an hour for the ceremony to start, and it was SO boring and rather uncomfortable.  Please don't do it....people know to get there before the ceremony starts so they can be seated on time.