I'm really worried about who should recieve the formal wedding invitation. My fiance and I both live in smaller towns where we have family, friends, and friends of our families. So here is my concern, who in the world gets an invite in the mail? We are both members at fairly large churches (where we each have a few very close friends) and we knew those churches would be hosting us showers and such. I'm getting married at my church. So do we make announcements for the wedding in our bulletins for the church(es) then send invites to family? or just out of town family/friends? what is the rule here? I certainly don't want anyone talking behind my back about how their mother got an invite but they didn't and such. I'm not afraid of spreading the date by word of mouth to those close friends but I just don't want to offend them if I'm a budget for the invites. ANY input or questions would be appreciated!