XP: Invitation question

Book Lover

Odd situation here, ladies - my mother's baby sister is one of those who is nice when she wants to be, but to be blunt she was a terrible mother and is so mean.  I thought she had changed last year, but her 'M.O.', if you will, is making double-edged comments that sound nice but she really is rude and hurtful - she has always been like this and no one has ever called her on it.

My final straw came last year when she made a comment about my mother - I've just had it with her.  My mom is my best friend and it hurt my heart when it happened.

SO - this aunt will expect to be invited, and my mother will receive the brunt of her wrath if she isn't.  But I don't want to be on my toes all day, waiting for her to say something.

Ideas?  Thanks!

Lisa50

What did you do when she made the hurtful comment about your mother?  If you confronted her and she understands she'd better not cross the line, you're okay.  If you let it slide, you need to speak up now -- before you mail invitations. 

It won't be easy, understandably, but it needs to be done.  There is no sense at all in feeling on edge, waiting for her to say something on your wedding day.

Book Lover

No, Mom didn't speak up - I love her, I do, it's just frustrating to watch her accept that sort of nonsense, I don't care if it is from her sister.  She won't say anything, by the way - because it IS her sister.  How she's put up with that behavior for all these years I'll never know.

I didn't say anything only out of respect for my Mom.  It's getting to that point, though, where I just cannot stand my aunt any longer.

I do appreciate the advice!