Here is the deal - at our approximately 75 person wedding there are very very few people that have children. However my FI's cousin has a two year old. She lives several states away, but her mother (FI Aunt) is going to perform our ceremony because she is a pastor. The cousin is unmarried and generally does not leave the child with other people. I have a very strong opinion of NOT have ANY children at the wedding - it is a formal evening event and I want adults only. However - my FI family thinks it is not a big deal and the toddler should be able to come. My family disagrees and my family is paying for everything. I don't want to cave and say she can come - but I don't want everyone upset and thinking I'm bridezilla.