Here's a little backstory: My dad's side of the family has never liked my mother. My grandfather, and some of my aunt and uncles have been very rude to her since the day they met her, and their "issues" with my mother translated onto my brother and I (after all, she gave birth to us!). After my father got sick 12 years ago, the hostility got worse, and after he passed away, we cut off all contact with them. I won't go into details, but the things that were said/done to us while my father was dying are unforgivable and reconcilliation is not going to happen in this lifetime.
Fast forward: Now that my cousins and I have grown up, we all pretty much understand the behavior that went on with the family was ridiculous. There are a few cousins who share my grandfather's outlook on life that I don't have contact with. As for the ones I do get along with, I don't talk to them often, and don't see them because we all live in different cities/countries.
Now, my question is this. Do I invite my cousins to my wedding? I understand that finalizing a guest list is far off into the future, but my FI and I are trying to get a rough estimate of how many people we are going to invite for budget reasons. I don't particularly want any of my aunt/uncles/grandfather to have any reason to contact me, but I also don't see any reason to exclude the cousins, who have always been good family. What do you all think?
