OK so I am a little confused right now about this...
-All over these boards the girls say that your bridesmaids just have to get the dress and show up and they don't HAVE to do anything else and you shouldn't give them a list of expectations etc.
-Well in most wedding planning books I have and even from The Knot they say to let your bridesmaids know what you will need them to do etc.
So what are you ladies doing??
Just having your bridesmaids show up or are you letting them know what you need from them as bridesmaids.