Vent.. blah

lnvane00

I just got off the phone with my mother.. and again I feel like I need to vent about something!! Haha. She always makes me question my decisions.

So this time it was about choosing a maid of honor. Me personally, I don’t think I need to choose one, nor do I think I actually could choose. In my wedding party so far, will be my two sisters, who will be 11 and 16 at the time of the wedding. And I also have my two best friends who are also sisters themselves and I've been friends for them almost 13 years. We all have busy lives and talk often but don’t see each other but once every couple months or so.

And now, I have just started talking and hanging out with an old best friend of mine. We were best best friends since high school. And a couple years ago something happened and we had a falling out and stopped being friends. Until last week. We went to lunch to meet and catch up and let the past be the past. And it was like nothing had happened and we were best friends again.
So now, I'm contemplating on asking her to be a BM. I'm still going to wait a while before I ask. But even when we weren’t talking, I was wishing we were still friends because I would want her to be a BM.

But do I seriously have to choose a MOH? I don’t see the point really. It’s not like the MOH is going to do or be different than any of the other BMs. I love all those girls the same. And love them to death!
UGH. I'm just so confused now. And it seemed like my mom was kind of upset that I'm not choosing a MOH. What do you girls think?? 

HillShmill

Personally, I don't think there's any need to choose one specific girl to be your MOH.

I've got my sister and my best friend in my bridal party. I refuse to chose between family and my friend who I'm techincally closer to. So they're both going to be either BMs or MOHs. I haven't made up my mind yet.

And I agree, if you aren't going to treat a MOH any differently than a BM, then I don't see the point in choosing one girl over all the others if you don't have that one stand-out BFF-4-EVA girl. The girls you chose will all be honored to be there for you and have a great time no matter what!

Lissa1213

I don't think you have to have a MOH if you don't want one.  I guess you just need to decide who is standing where in the wedding party. 

S0095042

I personally, don't think that you need a MOH...if you want one, have one. If not, then forgo it and just have bridesmaids

klw0022

Even though I'm the opposite and only having my BF be my MOH at our DW, you don't have to have prescribed BMs. I chose to not have any other BMs just to keep things simpler

Mona8

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_vent-blah?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:35300b84-297a-44be-8f7f-ba6a552be3caPost:14b4cf29-6a20-473d-90ff-6e5bdc4b19d1">Re: Vent.. blah</a>:
[QUOTE]I personally, don't think that you need a MOH...if you want one, have one. If not, then forgo it and just have bridesmaids :)
Posted by S0095042[/QUOTE]

^^This^^

You absolutely do not need a MOH, unless you want one

dordtgrl4

You really bring up an excellent point! It had never crossed my mind that I don't need a MOH. I guess I've just been in the realm of "traditional" too long. I was having difficulties because my younger sister is going to be 18 but has no idea what to do, my FSIL is going to be 28, and my best friends will both be 21. It was hard to pick just one. I'm closer technically to my FSIL but thanks, the gears are turning in my head.

Stephen was having difficulties picking which friend would be his Best Man.
Hmmm...

mandi921vh

Nope, you don't need a MOH. It's a good idea, like you said, to wait a few more months before deciding. Just see how things go in the next few months. 

lnvane00

Great advice girlies! I knew I could count on you! xoxo

gnatters

I think the main reason to have a Maid (or Matron) of honor now, is to have someone sign as a witness to the marriage license.  It would be up to you who that duty would go to.