May 2012 Weddings

NWR: Vent about a wedding I'm in

So I am in my college roommates wedding this October.  She asked me and three of her friends from her hometown to be in the wedding.  She is now not on great terms with the one BM and the other one moved to the FL (we will call her E).  E has now been fbooking everyone about getting things organized for her Bridal Shower and Bachelorette party.  She is living in FL and I"m fairly certain is not coming home anytime between now and the wedding, meaning she will not actually be at any of these events.

She keeps pushing have the bridal shower at winery.  It is $75 for the place and that doesn't include any food.  I was in a wedding a few years ago where I had to spend $100 on the bridal shower just for food and decorations.  I thought that was a lot considering the food was only for 20 people.  

So the bottom line is, I'm annoyed that someone who won't even be there keeps pushing this winery idea.  The bride is not a big drinker, so I don't think she would care either way.  E keeps saying she is so excited about thsi idea but if she won't be there what does it matter.  I think the bride would prefer a low key picnic at her mom's or something.  She is very simple and enjoys low-key gatherings.  Money is tight for all the BM all for different reasons.  I have been to many bridal showers that have all been picnics or gatherings at someone's house and have been very lovely.

Is it wrong for me to frustrated/annoyed about this situation?
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Re: NWR: Vent about a wedding I'm in

  • Not wrong at all.  I would be frustrated too!  You're right -- why does she care so much when she won't even be there?
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  • No not at all... Have you or the other BM's discussed this with "E"?
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  • None of the other bridesmaids have responded to the message.  The MOH has barely said anything.
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  • Ugh that is so frustrating, it is very weird she is so concerned about a party she won't be attending.
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  • It's frustrating for sure, but are sure she's actually not going to be there?
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  • Yeah that is a shame she is pushing for details on something she might/probably won't attend.  Hopefully the other BMs chime in and help in the decision process.
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  • I would just talk with the bride about it, and you two come up with idea that is more budget friendly.
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    [QUOTE]I would just talk with the bride about it, and you two come up with idea that is more budget friendly.
    Posted by FutureMrsSheeler[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>^^ This sounds like a really good idea!

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  • She just wrote back and said  she will not be attending any pre-wedding activities.  SO why does she care so much!!!!
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  • Maybe have a word with the MOH she could maybe pull rank on the situtation?!!?

  • I would definitely talk to the MOH about this.  Maybe even pull the bride in too. 
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