FI has lost it...

Soon2BSand

So today my FI and I were talking about who we are inviting to our wedding etc. He then says, "yeah and we get RSVP's via Facebook." I almost choked on my coffee! I go, "No!" He was like "People do it all the time... create an event and keep track of who's coming via Facebook." I'm thinking yeah but not for a wedding... He's serious. OMG! Please help me convince him that it's just ugh... lol

klw0022

Um, no lol. Pull up some ettiquette articles and show him? Or tell him about my texting situation and see what he says; similar and just as impersonal

Ambie106

LOL!!!!! Tell him it's not proper etiquette to send wedding invites via facebook...I would have had the deer in headlights look..... Something else that helps too I say well the "Knot" says.... and 9 times out of 10 it works...

sunshine3714

What if you did both? Perhaps create an invite for your friends to be invited to, but then also send them an invitation. I would definitely still send the invitation and I would not Facebook invite say parents and older people who are invited.

Lissa1213

Agree with PP.  I've always heard facebook is a big No No for anything wedding related.

Soon2BSand

I've made my decision... I'm deleting his Facebook. 

It's final. 

No really... I want to. *smh* lol

Lissa1213

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[QUOTE]I've made my decision... I'm deleting his Facebook.  It's final.  No really... I want to. *smh* lol
Posted by Soon2BSand[/QUOTE]

LOL

"Hunny, My facebook is gone!"

"Oh no, Thats so strange."

audreyjem

I wouldn't add fuel to the fire and delete his FB... but maybe make the first move and get rid of yours, make a good example for him.

When I tell my FI "but the knot said..." he gets more annoyed and tells me he doesn't want a website to make our choices for us.

But along with what the other ladies said, a wedding is a big event and proper etiquette is called for, even if you aren't have a traditional wedding. FB has no place in wedding planning or wedding anything... maybe if he wants less formal RSVPs you could opt for postcard response cards (which would save on postage a little too).

S0095042

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[QUOTE]Um, no lol. Pull up some ettiquette articles and show him? Or tell him about my texting situation and see what he says; similar and just as impersonal ;)
Posted by klw0022[/QUOTE]

lol. I would do this too... :)

lanejane

A birthday party at a bar and a formal wedding are totally different. He's just being a guy - so naturally he doesn't know what he's talking about lol. In these situations I nod my head and do what I know is proper decorum anyway.

daftmagpie

Maybe hit him upside the head a couple times? Maybe it will work like a reset button.

Have the camera ready when he checks his facebook we want to see the look on his face. followed by

*Disclaimer* I do not in any way support spousal abuse only small resets in the wiring of their brain.

Lissa1213

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[QUOTE]Maybe hit him upside the head a couple times? Maybe it will work like a reset button. Have the camera ready when he checks his facebook we want to see the look on his face. followed by *Disclaimer* I do not in any way support spousal abuse only small resets in the wiring of their brain.
Posted by daftmagpie[/QUOTE]

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leahstinson

delete facebook NOW!

gpapale1

Maybe a compromise?  I know a lot of wedding websites allow guests to RSVP online.  I think that's a better option than FB (and definitely less tacky).  This would allow people to RSVP the normal way via mail or give them the option to do it online...and look at all your wedding info.

Soon2BSand

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[QUOTE]Maybe hit him upside the head a couple times? Maybe it will work like a reset button. Have the camera ready when he checks his facebook we want to see the look on his face. followed by *Disclaimer* I do not in any way support spousal abuse only small resets in the wiring of their brain.
Posted by daftmagpie[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I'm ALLLLL for this! LOLOLOL!!!!!</div>

mari0225

LOL he sounds like mine! He said, "Aw babe it's a great way to save money." I said "There are other ways of saving money!"

Men just don't get it sometimes! Which is why us women do most of the wedding planning!

mandi921vh

Just tell him it's a big etiquette no-no to use FB for wedding invitations/rsvps. Also you could say," Honey, do you want people to think we are having a trashy wedding? Because that is what they will think when they see they need to RSVP on FB."

mari0225

I have gotten those invites to wedding via Facebook and I didn't go, they asked why, I told them I never received an invitation, they told me they sent one via facebook and I said, "Oh i'm sorry I thought that was a joke."

bpphoto785

I know someone who did this!! They didn't send out invitations but set up a Facebook event to invite people. We STILL talk about how tacky it was! Even if it's a casual backyard wedding guests deserve an invitation. Like lanejane said it's a wedding not birthday party at a bar! Sometimes you just have to hit them on the nose with a newspaper and say NO!

alainakw

I would tell him that not everyone you are inviting is on facebook, so not everyone would be able to RSVP to the event on there. That is so funny...oh boy!!