Excited!! But a bit upset ...

nicoleldice

So my older  sister got engaged this weekend.  That is great I am so excited for her she was in a really bad marriage and they got divorced and the guy she is with is amazing and would do anything for her and she desreves it.  They have been dating for about 2 years now.  I am excited and happy for her and I asked her what plans were and she said they did not want to wait so probably June or July this year.  Yes this is her second marriage so I am not sure if they will do the whole shebang wedding thing.  But I got a little upset about her getting married so close to my wedding (May 26)  and I know I will get over it but I think I am just worried that she will steal my thunder and hers will be better than mine.  

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AurorasEnvy

Exciting for your family!  But June or July is plenty of time after your wedding, especially when only half the year is considered good weather for weddings, you can't really expect anyone to avoid your date by more than a couple of weeks on either side.

toothpastechica

I hear you on both being excited and possibly upset. Could you talk to her about it? Also if its a second marraige for her, usually those tend to be a bit smaller scale, so as long as its not a week later, it might be fine (might also not has as many oot..but talk with her and see what shes planning). Maybe just saying to her "hey im so excited we get to get married so close together, but do  you think maybe you could try and look into places for july to make it easier on some of both of ours guests?"

Also June would be really pushing it for her to plan a full big wedding now anyways! Likely she wont be able to get a venue for june seeing as thats the BUSIEST month of the year for weddings, and lots of places are booked up a year in advance. Breath, either way I think it will work out fine.

ACKHillaryP

I definitely understand what you are saying, I feel like I would feel the same way... maybe you could have a talk with her about it? Good Luck!

caitlinc09

I understand how you're feeling - I would probably be a little upset too. I am sure once you get past the initial date shock you will forget all about it and refocus on your wedding. 

Honestly it may make things even harder on her because I'm sure everyone will still be focused on your wedding until it's over so really she'll only have a couple of months! 

Don't worry, it's still your time for now

Melissa51212

Aww it's exciting but totally understand. Hopefully she will do July. I can't imagine trying to plan a wedding in three months...I know it's been done. Lol

mandi921vh

I understand your feelings but there really isn't much you can do. You get one day, not a month. The only thing I would be concerned about is OOT guests either family or friends that would be traveling to both weddings? It's possible she hasn't thought about this part. If you do decide to talk to her about this make sure you talk about your concern for OOT guests and not you worried she will "steal your thunder."

dori851

I would try not to let it bother you. First of all, there isn't much you can do about what date she picks & I'm all about trying not to get upset over things that are out of my control Secondly, I agree with AurorasEnvy that if she has her wedding in June or July, that is plenty of time after your wedding to have the focus transition to her. Bottom line, you only get one day, not the whole year/month/week, whatever. So, enjoy your day & then be excited for her so she can enjoy hers

LuckyHeather

I'm with PP, concentrate on making your day special, and don't think about her day.  A month is enough time for people to have separation, unless there is travel involved (a lot of out of town guests). 

Try to remember, even though its hard, that its not a competition.  Your day will be special for you, and her day will be special for her.  Be excited for her, and share everything you have learned along the way.  Even though its her second wedding, she will need advice too. 

Killa2979

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[QUOTE]I'm with PP, concentrate on making your day special, and don't think about her day.  A month is enough time for people to have separation, unless there is travel involved (a lot of out of town guests).  Try to remember, even though its hard, that its not a competition.  Your day will be special for you, and her day will be special for her.  Be excited for her, and share everything you have learned along the way.  Even though its her second wedding, she will need advice too.  ;)
Posted by LuckyHeather[/QUOTE]

<div>Very well said :-)</div>