May 2012 Weddings

not a "normal" wedding

My mom seems very concerned with my decorating taste... so I have heard a number of times I am doing decorations for the reception she says are not "wedding" like- at least for the normal weddings in my (very large) hometown.

My dad (who passed away) was always our creative one and my poor mom is just so fish out of water she's having a hard time with this and I don't know how to make it easier on her other than to tell her... I'm paying for it, it will look lovely, trust me, and none of our friends will disown us if my wedding is a little more off center.

Okay first of all my Mom is very graciously helping with hosting the reception but FI and I are paying for all decorations/photography/dj/cake/etc.

We're doing vintage postcards with a mailbox instead of a guestbook, I am having a smaller wedding cake with a sheet cake instead of a large cake, our table numbers are photos with names of the places, the escort card display is a little more rustic (ribbons in a wood frame), and yes... I admit my idea of vintage styled colored bottles with flowers in them may not be as elegant as a clear glass vases with lots of roses.

So I am mocking things up, trying example photos, brought samples to the house during the Christmas visit, and am asking if there are any concerns and the bottom line seems to be that this wedding is not like other ones she's been to, she can't picture it and well it's just so different.  I am making a lot of the stuff so I can afford to have something nice, simplish.

Okay it's been a long Christmas trip with just one too many times getting questioned on my ideas.  At least she loves my dress and accessories- right? Thanks for listening... I just was hoping to hear... wow that sounds great once or twice. But I did get you're really organized so that's something!



Re: not a "normal" wedding

  • That sounds tough! My advice is keep planning the wedding of YOUR dreams and in the end she will come around! I am sure the wedding will be beautiful and she will regret doubting you! GL!
  • Totally agree with PP: Maybe it's just hard for your mom to vision the whole thing when it's pulled together, but the vintage look is becoming quite popular now. Maybe finding some more examples of "real" vintage / rustic weddings on TK or other sites/magazines would put her at ease.

    I think everything sounds lovely.
  • What you have planned doesn't sound odd to me at all - it isn't "traditional" per se like you said, but I've been to plenty of rustic vintage weddings and didn't think anything was odd at all.

    Your mom will come around.  And if she doesn't, it is your wedding, not hers.  I agree with PP - maybe sending her your inspiration photos will help her picture everything put together =]
    photo trex2_zps7ab4e9b0.jpg
    Daisypath Anniversary tickers
  • show her stylemepretty.com - it sounds like you're going for a look a lot of the weddings on that site feature. Maybe if she sees it all pulled together, she'll have a better idea of what you're aiming for.
    Follow Me (and my wedding!) on Pinterest
    50 in 2012 Reading Challenge: 2 books read
    my read shelf:

    Katie Rizzo's book recommendations, liked quotes, book clubs, book trivia, book lists (read shelf)
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
  • what you're planning sounds very similar to what my FI and I are planning, except we're doing cupcakes instead of sheetcake (but I'm all for the sheetcake idea).

    but i'm sure like other pp's have said, she's probably just having trouble envisioning what it will look like, and when she see's it all together she'll better understand and most likely love it.

    i know a lot of people like centerpieces with clear glass vases and roses, but i'm not one of them, and it doesn't sound like you are either.  keep on truckin' sister!  :)
  • If you are paying then I would just continue planning the wedding you and your FI want. Your mom will come around, sometimes it's hard for people to imagine things when everything isn't put together yet.
    imageDaisypath Anniversary tickers
  • When it comes down to it, it's YOUR (well you and FI's) day. You decorate it however you want to. It will be beautiful and at the end of the day, if you're married, it was a success.
    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
  • Sounds frustrating!  I agree that showing her pics may help ease her anxieties about your choices.  Nothing you mentioned sounds too crazy to me!  And, even if she doesn't come around, I'm sure she'll be so happy the day of, she won't be too concerned with the details you've chosen.  Good luck and keep planning your dream wedding. :)

  • Stick to your guns sugar.... everthing sounds great! (I especially like the postcard & mailbox guestbook idea, very unique) Every mama wants the whole "princess" theme for their little girl, but what she will soon realize is that your a grown woman with your own mind and different views on how you want your day!!! Hand in there
    imageAnniversary Follow Me on Pinterest
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards