NWR: Between a rock and a hard place...

S0095042

So I just found out that I got a promotion at work. The issue: my good friend at work was up for it to. She "sparked" me today (our works instant messenger) to say congrats. So I thanked her but then she said she was thinking about quitting etc. So I said, "no bad blood between us right...?"
 
and her reply:"nope there isn't, i am seriously happy for you, just bummed because I really thought I had it in the bag because of seniority, and attendance/work ethic"  --och! I replied that "I wish there were 2 promotions" and that we'd have to go out for drinks if she wasn't going to be back in the fall... she said that that would be nice.

My issue:I don't think she meant it the way it came off, but it kind of erked me. We have the same seniority and she gets in trouble at work all the time for texting and using her phone...I've never been in trouble for this. She also has called in for 3 shifts this spring (which is the max. allowed without getting in trouble), and I've only called in for 1...and it was for a dr.'s appointment so it was actually excused. As for the work ethic...really? I feel like that was a low blow, we both work as hard as each other ---I'm thinking maybe her feelings are just hurt now and she'll cool off but wow! it caught me off guard! I wouldn't have said this to her if she got the position...

Ambie106

First off congrats on the promotion!!! But I think she may be a little bitter thay you got it. There is a reason they picked you for that position. Dont let her get to you...

klw0022

You deserve it I'm sure, CONGRATS!

I think she may just need a moment or so to calm down and collect her thoughts. We all play the 'blame game' when we're hurt or upset and it takes more time to think how we can improve ourselves instead of looking for excuses or reasons for why things happened. After she does that I'm sure you guys will be fine; if she's a true friend she'll be happy for you

Pod0512

Congrats on the Promotion! That's so exciting for you

If I were in your position, I'd probably be a little hurt about what she said.  At the same time, though, it sounds like she really really thought she was going to get it so she's probably upset and over-analyzing everything about work trying to figure out where she went wrong.

I wouldn't hold it against her.  Hopefully she'll come around.  She did say she was happy for you, so look at that instead.  And then go have a drink because it sounds like you deserve it!

mandi921vh

Congrats on your promotion! It is possible she is just pissed/jealous. Give her some time to cool off. She can't be too mad at you because it's not like you would have said "oh yea thanks for the job but I think my friend deserves it more." Hopefully she will cool off and things will go back to normal, it's not like you did anything wrong. 

S0095042

Thanks ladies! I tried not to be snippy back, thought it would just make things worse and like you all said, I think she's just a little touchy right now.

Also, thanks for all the kind words. I've told the FI and the first thing he said..."Congrats! So with your raise does that mean I can buy the new bumper for my Jeep!" he was just playing though. I think he might even make dinner tonight or at least take me out! fun, fun!

FutureMrsSheeler

Congratulations! I'm sure it will blow over in a couple days, and she will be fine. I wouldn't let it get to you, you obviously deserved it, and shouldn't be feeling bad about it!

Mona8

Congrats!!! I'm sure you deserve it!

I agree with everyone else. She's just upset and will hopefully get over it in a few days. At the same time though, what she said was hurtful and shouldn't have been said. Obviously your bosses don't agree with her.

Tlongo

Congrats on the well deserved promotion.  I am sure any raise is a welcome reward while saving for the wedding as well. 

As for you friend, I agree with PP give her a few days to cool down hopefully she will be more understanding then. 

Is she going to be reporting to you?  If thats the case and she is older than you that may be another reason she felt she deserved it.

S0095042

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[QUOTE]Congrats on the well deserved promotion.  I am sure any raise is a welcome reward while saving for the wedding as well.  As for you friend, I agree with PP give her a few days to cool down hopefully she will be more understanding then.  Is she going to be reporting to you?  If thats the case and she is older than you that may be another reason she felt she deserved it.
Posted by Tlongo[/QUOTE]

Yes she is going to be reporting to me and we are the same age..

@everyone: thanks for all the support! And yes, the raise will be helpful for the wedding! lol.

dordtgrl4

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[QUOTE]Congratulations! I'm sure it will blow over in a couple days, and she will be fine. I wouldn't let it get to you, you obviously deserved it, and shouldn't be feeling bad about it! :)
Posted by FutureMrsSheeler[/QUOTE]

I couldn't have said it better myself! :)