Ugh here we go again. See post about cousins dropping out of the wedding.
Here is the short version. 2 cousins were in my wedding party..one dropped out because of money...then the other said some really nasty things to me and dropped out...I was nice enough to let one back in the wedding not once..but after 2 times she dropped out. My family has been fighting with me over this over and over and finally things were getting better. i had my 6 BMs and i was set. everyones dresses were ordered except the one cousins dress. She was coming this friday to buy the dress.
So...whew....she was dating this real D-bag i dont like. they broke up because he was really controlling, rude and obnoxious. he had the nerve to call my grandmother a b-tch, came to afamily dinner for christmas and proceeded to pass gas all night and think it was funny to walk around and air it out while we were eating dinner. he was rude to my fiance and family...so they finally broke up and i was thanking god because she could do so much better. after the breakup she called me upset saying he brainwashed her saying she was fat and would never find someone else who will love her and threatened to post naked pictures of her on facebook. At this point i was ready to beat to piss out of this kid.
So....after all this....they get back together. I DID not and WILL NOT invite him.
I decided to tell her this today and what does she do....drops out again.
So was i wrong for not wanting this jerkoff at my wedding.
My whole family is fighting me on this. My rule was...if your not engaged or married then no guest. i told everyone this from the get go and NO ONE had a problem with it. most people are married anyway...there are only 3 people who are not who are invited to the wedding...each one came to me and said they didnt care..they didnt need or want a guest anyway, our wedding list is already at 205 with close friends and family only. there is no one invited that we do not know. and thats how i want it...i dont want this kid at my wedding let alone anywhere near me on my wedding day.
my aunt ...who initially kicked my cousin out when she found out they were together is now siding with her daughter and FIGHTING me on this saying its one sided and not fair to my cousin. when my list was completed...she was single. at the rate they are going..i dont see things lasting anyway.... she has dropped out again refusing to attend the wedding as a guest and i said...thats it...dress order is going in and im not taking her back as a BM. my fiance and i are so done with this.
im standing my ground with this...ettiguette or not. hes too controlling and is likely to start problems at the wedding as he has no respect for anyone. im not wasting $120 on a plate to have this jerkoff fight with my cousin at my wedding. i dont think im wrong in my decision. i was nice to her about it explaining my situation...and instead i got crap for it from my aunt. at this rate i have stopped almost entirely talking to my family. its been endless problems. and i am NOT backing down this time. if he does happen to show up....SHARK TANK he goes.