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NWR: a little vent, but mostly just a bit sad

evenundomielevenundomiel member
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I am probably the last person who would ever write a vent, but I just need to get it out, and I know you girls will understand. I have very little to complain about with my FI. We live together, have a nice house, a new puppy, and good jobs. We're so lucky...I know that..just wanna preface my vent lol. FI starts the big part if his job today. He's a professional lifeguard...and they work like crazy from mid May to mid September. When he's in this time he works from 7am to 9:30 pm. Basically I never see him except when he comes home and throws himself in bed. I'm fairly used to this...we've been together for 4 years..it's not likes it's a new development, and this is his last year. I just am upset that during this year I am stuck with all the house stuff, our puppy, and this year...all the wedding stuff. I just feel like I was unprepared about all of this falling on me this summer. I work full time too...so it's not like I'm not tired when I get home too. In the off season we shoulder the responsibilities together...but now I'm left with taking care of everything AND planning the 250 person wedding. I just am feeling a little abandoned and overwhelmed today I guess...and hormonal lol. And mostly wishing I could have kissed FI goodbye this morning before he left....but then I saw my to-do list for the week and got angry I had to do it all by my lonesome self. Sorry for the self pity party y'all...
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  • mandi921vhmandi921vh member
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    Ugh that does sound frustrating! What about doing the wedding planning only on weekends so that you and your FI can do it together. 

    I get you on the hormonal thing, sometimes I get upset with FI when he hangs out with coworkers after work only because I don't see him all day then he comes home, we eat dinner, clean up, then there is an hour or so before he is too tired to do anything and goes to bed, so I feel like I don't see him, or that we spent enough quality time together. But I know that it is important for him to hang out with other people besides me, sometimes the hormones get the best of me :)
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  • jennamarie10jennamarie10
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    It's definitely ok to be sad! My FI usually works 3pm to 11pm and I work during the day, so either I have to stay up late to see him or stay home later in the morning to get breakfast with him. I do love my alone time too but it's hard when he's not around all the time! Hopefully you two can plan something nice for the days he gets off and make the most of it!! :)
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  • FutureMrsSheelerFutureMrsSheeler
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    I totally get where you are coming from. FI works morning to sunset all summer with his lawn care business.. blah! But I reall ylike Mandi's idea about trying to do a lot fo the planning on weekends with him, so that he can still be involved, and you're less stressed.
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  • evenundomielevenundomiel member
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    Thanks y'all. I really like your suggestions. FI won't have a weekend off till June, but then he BEST wanna do wedding stuff, cause I sure will! Thanks for listening :)
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