NWR: AHHHH!!!

carlowgirl10

Ok..i work at subway...and im also a substitute teacher...i have subbed at the school all week..and closed at subway soo 5 days straight of 7am-10pm....
My FI and I have 2 ferrets and I consider them our children ( i love animals, and they are family to me!)...well when we got them..he bought them for me as a bday present, except i bought everything except the ferrets ( the cage alone was $200,..plus food...toys..hammocks...etc). So we spent about the same amount of money...

Well 2 years later (present time..) i do pretty much everything..i feed, clean, and water them. We agreeed that we would share the duties, since for now these are our children...
HE DOESNT DO ANYTHING!!!

like tonight..since i have been working 15 hour days..i havent been cleaning their litter box every night like usual...so it hasnt been cleaned in 6 days! (YUCK!)... i come home otnight...and instead of him CLEANING the cage.. HE LIGHTS A FREAKING CANDLE!!! He is soo lucky he is sleeping..cuz i am ABOUT TO FLIP OUT!!


I just needed to vent... but being 3 days before my lovely period comes..im emotional and wondering if he is not gonna help out when it comes to when we do have children..... should i worry, should i talk to him about my concerns? or am i just being emotional?

FutureMrsSheeler

Definitely talk to him and tell him that he needs to help out, especially since you are working so much. Temind him of your agreements when you first got the ferrets.

Ambie106

I agree with PP....

klw0022

Agree with PP...and then a good 10 minutes in time out, that's what I do with my Fi lol ;o)

mandi921vh

Definitely sit down and talk to him about the agreements you two made 2 years ago. 

angelsong21

Agree with PP...definitely need to talk to him.  I've noticed that guys really don't think about this stuff.  I would get SO upset with FI because I was doing all of the housework on top of working and going to school.  It was really frustrating.  I finally blew up one day about how he never takes any initiative etc and he said he couldn't think of anywhere specific to begin.  He said if I just told him what I needed him to get done, that he'd be happy to do it.  Sure enough, if I write a quick list of stuff for him to work on, it gets done.  We just didn't know how to communicate effectively in that area.

Guys will always fail to understand that dogs need cleaning up after, that the colors don't go in with the whites, that you can't let wet laundry sit in the washer 5 days before you attempt to dry it, or that carpets don't vacuum themselves...at least in my experiences and from talking to my coworkers and family.  I'm sure some guys are a LOT better about this stuff, but just talk to him.  Hopefully you guys can come to a happy compromise.

carlowgirl10

Thanks guys!!! I was just SOO Mad i needed to vent! lol

toothpastechica

i get frusterated sometimes cuz my mans idea of clean and  my idea of clean are 2 different things (what...i cleaned the bathroom...then why is there hair on the floor and toothpaste in the sink and spots on the mirror?) I find if i give specific tasks and a time limit that works the best...like a txt saying "hey if we are going to do dinner tonight can you wipe down the counters and do the dishes before i get there?" and then hes pretty reliable...but when theres no specifics good luck anything getting done!