So this was a few days ago but I wanted to still post the update. Between all of the wonderful advice here and talking to my Mum I feel a lot better about it. With the websites for the pre-owned dresses and everyone reassuring me I have decided to continue to wait to buy my dress until I am 110% financially ready to do so. Right now I’d just be stretching myself too thin and God forbid anything unexpected should happen I’d be in trouble!
This is what my Mum said to me and I think it’s good advice to I figured it wouldn’t hurt to share:
“ I think you should wait ‘till September like you had originally planned, you’ll have more money, not stress over it and at the rate you’re going you may not even like this dress by then. Your body is already looking different with the work outs you’ve been doing and even if you don’t lose a pound between now and then you’ll be more ‘compact’ (for lack of a better word) and things will fit you differently. I know from experience that the more weight I lost and the harder I worked out the more things I liked myself in. I don’t believe this is the end all dress, and if it is and it’s meant to be you’ll find it in September when you go. You don’t want to end up with two dresses to sell before the wedding…”
Which brings me to an excellent point; a woman I worked with GAVE me a dress back in the summer, she was moving and didn’t want to take it with her so she asked me if I wanted to look at it. I tried it on, fell in love so she sent it home with me. It was PERFECT at the time even tho I wasn’t even engaged yet. Between that point and the time he actually proposed I had lost about 20 lbs and when I tried it on again I didn’t like it one bit. It made me look all frumpy and pudgy and I had worked so hard to start to get rid of that I decided to try and sell it and go for a new one which is how I ended up falling for the MS dress.
When I look back on how much I loved that dress then and how much I don’t love it now I’d hate to stretch myself thin for this one, lose weight, and not be happy with it anymore. *sigh*