Reception Drama Already!

gnatters

I have been steamed about this since last night, and I just wanted to vent.

When we signed the contract to our venue, we decided on our "two" entrees (we decided on two entrees and would also have a free option of vegetarian). The entrees we decided on were a Chorizo stuffed Pork Tenderloin (delish) and a Rum Glazed Grouper (very delish).  We wanted something different from the normal Chicken and Beef.

Well, this went over like a lead balloon with my family.  My sister (who is notoriously picky) asked if we had other options (doesn't like rum, doesn't eat pork) and I told her we had a Veg option.

She talked to my mom about the options and my mother called me up asking if we could change it because SHE didn't like the options either.  I told her I could ask the coordinator what the extra charge would be to add a third option.  My mother then asked to see the banquet menu to choose another entree because "we are providing the food for our guests". 

I mentioned there was a Chicken Piccata (in lemon-butter sauce with capers) and Chicken Marsala (I was wrong about that one anyway), and she said "Don't they serve normal food there?"

Ugh!  By the way, *I* am paying for the reception, not my family, but my mom doesn't know that.

Thanks for letting me vent.

angelsong21

Hmm...this will be a hard one to address until your mom finds out you are paying for it. Otherwise, if she thinks she is paying, it sounds like she plans on making these decisions for you.  When are you planning on telling her?

I can understand why you were so steamed though.  Chicken Marsala and Chicken Picatta?  How much more "normal" can you get for reception food?!  I am a picked eater too, so no Grouper for me, but I'd eat the pork with chorizo...yum!  You are not going to please everyone, especially if you venture out of the "normal" realm, and especially if you are paying, get what you like so long as it isn't something the majority of your guests wouldn't touch (ie since most of my family doesn't eat fish, we won't be having a fish option).  It makes no sense to pay for an entree for people that most people are not going to touch.

klw0022

That's so silly. Especially since YOU are paying for it! People will eat what they will eat, and if they are hungry it doesn't matter. All that matters is what YOU guys want to eat, when you get a break from the craziness TO eat.

In one ear, out the other, would be the best way to deal, atleast you have us to vent to

arauchte

Well to be honest, its a wedding and wedding food.  You can't control really how the food comes out the day of so your mom and sister should stop worrying about it.  I am very picky too and I have never been to a wedding where the meal was absolutely amazing.  But hey it is a free meal and a free party so your friends and family should be ok with it and keep their opinions to themselves.  My FI and I can't even try out food before our wedding and to me it's not that big of a deal.  Chicken is chicken and beef is beef.  It is free food so people will eat it. lol

lanejane

How about a compromise. I understand it's YOUR wedding and YOU'RE paying for it. And I know you want something different, but you have to remember the day is also about all those guests you're inviting and you want them to be happy and have a good time too right?

So how about picking one chicken dish and then one of your original dishes. You can't go wrong with chicken. And chicken marsala is about as "normal" as you can get.

S0095042

Maybe now would be a good time to break the news to her? I hope it all shakes out for you. I would be really upset if someone did this to me, esp. if they weren't paying for it.

bpphoto785

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[QUOTE]How about a compromise. I understand it's YOUR wedding and YOU'RE paying for it. And I know you want something different, but you have to remember the day is also about all those guests you're inviting and you want them to be happy and have a good time too right? So how about picking one chicken dish and then one of your original dishes. You can't go wrong with chicken. And chicken marsala is about as "normal" as you can get.
Posted by lanejane[/QUOTE]

THIS.
<span style="font-family:Arial;color:#1f1f1f;font-size:8.5pt;">I think those sound DELICIOUS! but I'm a pretty adventurous eater. I think a compromise might be best here. Your favorite “different” dish with something more traditional. While it’s your day, you still have guests to feed and a lot of people are picky. </span><p style="margin:0in 0in 0pt;" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#1f1f1f;font-size:8.5pt;">I also agree that you can’t get much more “normal” than chicken marsala. What does your Mom consider “normal”? </span></p>

mandi921vh

Ugh that's annoying, but you really cannot please everyone, if you are paying, you get to decide what food is served. Try not to let this bring you down

Soon2BSand

I had this issue the "first time around"... it ticked me off so bad then that I'm like eff em this time around.

You are getting married for YOU and no one else. Choose entrees that you like first and foremost. If someone has an issue they can a) not eat or b) not come.

Family or not... you don't need added stress over something so menial. 

katie88f

I completely agree with the PP.  Its your wedding day and you should choose food that you and your FI like.  Both my FI and I are not chicken eaters, never have been, so there is no way were are going to offer that ar OUR wedding.  I've had a few comments made, but i choose to ignore.  There will be appetizers and a cheese display too.  I am doing the same thing with my cake, I want unique flavors and not the typical wedding cake.  I've gotten a lot of weird looks, but I am okay with that because its what we want and we are paying!

gnatters

I figured I'd come back and post an update.

Mom (nor sister) have brought up the food issue since last week.  I spoke with my grandparents and they said the food sounded good to them.

I'm going to stick to my original option with this battle.  I don't want to have my FI give up his choice of food because 2% (ish) of the people invited to the reception are not happy with the menu chosen.

Thanks for the advice and support ladies!