Why I wanted to throat chop the ex...

Soon2BSand

I got served petition that he filed for full custody of our two children last night. The basis? I'm getting married.

S0095042

...I'm not really sure what to say about this except that I'm sorry, and will be sending you supporting vibs. I couln't image

gpapale1

I'm sorry honey, that is terrible!  I will pray for you and I hope this situation gets resolved...

daftmagpie

OMG what an ass. But at least you know the basis the courts wont find warenting of him getting full custody. If anything a new marriage makes your hosehold more financialy stable. Not saying it wasnt before but you know what I mean, two incomes to raise kids the courts view as better then one.

Soon2BSand

I don't even think the bastard will show up in court... he's doing this to spite me. 

I'm normally a happy go lucky person but I've been the WORST today. 

Mona8

Wow, how awful of him. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. Happy vibes and prayers going your way!

Soon2BSand

I forgot to mention... that when I talked to my 4 year old son last night he said "mommy I'm sad" I said why he said "because Daddy said we'll never see you again..."

We're on the "His turn" part of our shared custody and it took everything in me not to get in my car and drive the 11 hours to get my children. 

Malibu2370

Omg I'm so sorry. I'll be praying for you that everything works out. That's awful that he would do that.... i wouldn't mind throat chopping him for you!!!

calo1983

yeah why stop at throat chopping... just sayin...

that's not cool. youll be in my thoughts and prayers

LenaF

Wow, I would go crazy on him. But you need to keep your cool and not say anything to him that could be used against you later. I don't think you have anything to worry about because you're the mother and your household is becoming more stable with you getting married. Not just financially, but it will be good for your children to have another male figure in their life that loves them. Good luck with everything! I hope it all works out in your favor!

greeneke2

Wow that is terrible and I can't believe he is telling your kids that.  I'm so sorry

klw0022

I'm so sorry girl, I'll be thinking of you and know that karma will only get him in the end!

Soon2BSand

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[QUOTE]<strong><u>Wow, I would go crazy on him. </u></strong>But you need to keep your cool and not say anything to him that could be used against you later. I don't think you have anything to worry about because you're the mother and your household is becoming more stable with you getting married. Not just financially, but it will be good for your children to have another male figure in their life that loves them. Good luck with everything! I hope it all works out in your favor!
Posted by LenaF[/QUOTE]

<div>Thanks ladies...</div><div>
</div><div>The hardest part for me is this... I'm suvh a mellow person who hates drama that I typically let people walk all over me to avoid conflict. He KNOWS this and he also KNOWS the only way he gets to me is through our children. He uses them to control me. Always has... we've been divorced for nearly 3 years... you'd think he'd grow the hell up.</div><div>
</div><div>I'm just hoping this all goes A-WAY because I've always refused to fight over my children in court like they are pieces of furniture or property. </div><div>
</div><div>:(</div><div>
</div><div>Tonight will be a nerve pill and glass of wine night. I have class and I'm not even going. I wish you ladies were closer so we could go have dinner or something. I hate going through crap and no one is here that relates to me. FI is so far away and my closest friends are too.</div><div>
</div><div>*sigh*</div>

Malibu2370

**hugs**

leahstinson

lots of hugs girl!!!! i hope this all gets settled very quick!!

calo1983

hugs

FutureMrsSheeler

Grrr! How low of him!! Try to just let it blow over and show him you're the bigger person and have moved on with your life.

justanotherbride

That sucks! I hope that he calms down and if not, I'm sure the court won't let him have full custody just because he doesn't want you getting married.

Also - I live in MD about 15 minutes from DC... where are you? We could do lunch or something this weekend if you wanna chat! Private message me if you want!

Soon2BSand

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[QUOTE]That sucks! I hope that he calms down and if not, I'm sure the court won't let him have full custody just because he doesn't want you getting married. Also - I live in MD about 15 minutes from DC... where are you? We could do lunch or something this weekend if you wanna chat! Private message me if you want! :)
Posted by justanotherbride[/QUOTE]

<div>Shut up. I live in MD too!!!! Lets chat off line... shoot me an email (nicolelatasha at gmail dot come)</div>

toothpastechica

sounds like an ass. You mentioned that hes telling your kids that they wont ever see you....use that on your side in court...and take it to court. In the long run it gives you more rights, even if you dont like the drama. You, being the mother, and getting remarried, are the ideal family for your kids in the eyes of "the system" and if it comes to light that he is intentionally trying to withold your kids from you for selfish reasons, its more likely that he would lose access to them then you would...and if he is low enough to tell your children stuff like that it might be best for the court to be the nuetral deciding factor as to how much access he has....you dont need to worry about losing your access to them...if he actually takes the legal road he has way more to lose then you do.

Soon2BSand

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_wanted-throat-chop-ex?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:f9e51abd-fe46-4e1f-92d6-26a6d4287b17Post:b522ec62-8cfa-45f3-b794-6008375a5288">Re: Why I wanted to throat chop the ex...</a>:
[QUOTE]sounds like an ass. You mentioned that hes telling your kids that they wont ever see you....use that on your side in court...and take it to court. In the long run it gives you more rights, even if you dont like the drama. You, being the mother, and getting remarried, are the ideal family for your kids in the eyes of "the system" and if it comes to light that he is intentionally trying to withold your kids from you for selfish reasons, its more likely that he would lose access to them then you would...and if he is low enough to tell your children stuff like that it might be best for the court to be the nuetral deciding factor as to how much access he has....you dont need to worry about losing your access to them...if he actually takes the legal road he has way more to lose then you do.
Posted by toothpastechica[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Thank you... I've been so stressed about this all day afraid I'll never see them. Its crazy... thank you. I'm calling an attorney tomorrow but it's SO not an expense I was expecting... then again I'll not HAVE a wedding before I let this happen.........</div><div>
</div><div>which I'm starting to think is what he wants anyway. smh</div>

justanotherbride

Email sent!

rerawalt

I'm so sorry.  I have an ex that I feel the same way about.  I try to remember everytime that he does something to try and hurt me how much better my life is now that he doesn't have access to me everyday.  Jsut a bit of advice on court, write down everything.  If you are organized and show proof that he is hurting your kids by telling them things like they will never see you again, this may backfire and he may loose time with them.  Tape conversations with him.  You never know what he might say.  My cousin's ex did the same exact thing to her and he ended up loosing all custody rights. 

Becky&Chris

That is so frustrating! I hope you're hanging in there. Luckily Maryland is such a mother-friendly state when it comes to custody battles. My friend is actually fighting a really uphill battle to get custody of his daughter and the mother neglects the poor little girl all the time, so I see your ex going absolutely nowhere with this.

I'm sorry you are having to deal with it alone, but I hope that glass of wine is treating you right and we all support you!