I have three kids (ages 9,6 and 5). I would like to find a small way to include them in the ceremony. My middle child has special needs and my oldest is VERY shy, so I don't think the traditional ways would work (family unity candle, sand in the vase etc...) Someone suggested having all four us walk down the aisle together and then have them have special seats up front. (I think they can handle that.) Thoughts? Other ideas?