How hard is it to.... (a Monday morning husband vent)

lyndausvi

put things in the trash can that is less than 2 feet from you?   Seriously, the trash can is like, right there.  Am I asking too much?

Please tell me your SO does something just as silly?

DaisyMaeMommy

FI does the EXACT same thing. We have a trashcan in almost every single room, and instead of throwing stuff away, he just sets it next to him...

And then usually forgets about it. 

kaos16

DH does the same thing!!!  It drives me up the wall.  He also leaves dishes out when he is done eating something 10 feet away from the dishwasher.

JennaMichelle88

He takes his socks off as soon as he sits down at night and cannot remember to put them in the hamper when he comes to bed. They just sit underneath the coffee table for days if I don't pick them up.

harper0813

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[QUOTE]He takes his socks off as soon as he sits down at night and cannot remember to put them in the hamper when he comes to bed. They just sit underneath the coffee table for days if I don't pick them up.
Posted by JennaMichelle88[/QUOTE]

<div>Ha ha! FI does this too, but now that we have a dog, she steals his socks and rips them apart if he leaves them around. He learned his lesson SUPER quickly.</div>

lyndausvi

After the trash on the counter thing I went to the living room and there was a bottle left over from last night of his. 

I said  "wha'ts up with your drink?"

He said  "I'm taking it to the sink, dumping it, washing out the bottle and putting it in the recycle bin.  That's the correct answer right?".

I admit it made me laugh.

DH use to be bad with the sock, but not so much anymore.   He's not a fan of putting away his clothes, but he did without prompting today.  He knew I was grumpy.    

BostonGIrl4732

FI will rinse his water glass in the sink and leave it there.  The dishwasher is two feet away and filled with dirty dishes.

I found out last weekend that at his parents, FI wasn't allowed to put anything in the dishwasher (it was his "mom's" and he wasn't allowed to touch it).  I forgive him a bit more for it now because it's an old habit.  He just needs to break it.

MrsGandthebeag

I have a similar pet peeve.  My dh puts his dirty clothes next to the hamper, not in it.  I don't get it.  

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]FI will rinse his water glass in the sink and leave it there.  The dishwasher is two feet away and filled with dirty dishes. I found out last weekend that at his parents,<strong> FI wasn't allowed to put anything in the dishwasher (it was his "mom's" and he wasn't allowed to touch it). </strong> I forgive him a bit more for it now because it's an old habit.  He just needs to break it.
Posted by BostonGIrl4732[/QUOTE]

<div>DH's mom is the same way.  Only she can load the dishwasher. Or the washer/dryer or the oven.  Yeah, she ruin any woman DH was going to marry.</div>

ZeroOrchestra

In Response to Re:How hard is it to.... a Monday morning husband vent:[QUOTE]I have a similar pet peeve. nbsp;My dh puts his dirty clothes next to the hamper, not in it. nbsp;I don't get it. nbsp; Posted by MrsGandthebeag[/QUOTE]

In our kiddo's room, H always puts the dirty clothes on top of the hamper and it makes me ragey. How hard is it to lift the lid?!

AddieCake

My husband is terrible about throwing stuff away. He opens things and then just leaves the packaging sitting on the counter, table, or whatever. Last time he was home, he changed our shower heads and then just left the old one sitting on the sink. 

Peaseblossom55

FI will leave dishes in the sink too, and not put them in the dishwasher which is right next to it.  Sometimes he does put them in dishwasher though with no rhyme or reason....

BostonGIrl4732

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How hard is it to.... (a Monday morning husband vent) : DH's mom is the same way.  Only she can load the dishwasher. Or the washer/dryer or the oven.  Yeah, she ruin any woman DH was going to marry.
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm glad I'm not the only one who has to deal with this.  I have relatives who are like this.  My aunt is the only one who can touch the dishwasher in her house or do the laundry.  However, I personally think that it's better to teach your kids how to do it so when they move out they aren't learning how to do everything at once.  That's just me though.</div>

AdeleDazeem

My husband will take the dishes from dinner from the table to the counter OVER the dishwasher ...and leave them there.  DUUUUUDE.  Help me out and put them IN the dishwasher!

He also goes full tilt into projects and gets tired halfway through.  Last weekend, he cleaned the bathroom for me (which I'm so grateful for), but became obsessed with deep cleaning it such that after doing the sink, the mirror, and the toilet, he took a nap.  All the mats and sink stuff was lying on the floor outside the bathroom for hours.  He does the same thing with cleaning the apartment.  He'll move all the furniture to vaccuum and then quit after that because he's tired.

If you're going to clean, COMMIT to the whole project.

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How hard is it to.... (a Monday morning husband vent) : I'm glad I'm not the only one who has to deal with this.  I have relatives who are like this.  My aunt is the only one who can touch the dishwasher in her house or do the laundry.  However, I personally think that it's better to teach your kids how to do it so when they move out they aren't learning how to do everything at once.  That's just me though.
Posted by BostonGIrl4732[/QUOTE]

<div>DH is a chef.  Like has run a place with  4 restaurants, staff of 80 people that does $17 million in revenue.   He is NOT allowed to use her oven because "he might break it".  He has never cooked for her.</div>

GoodLuckBear14

When DH hand washes anything, he refuses to fill the sink with soapy water and instead puts a couple of drops of dishwashing liquid in a bowl with water and then dabs a sponge in there.  He seems to think the only time he "doesn't get it all" is when I find everything drying in the dishrack with the grease and junk spread all over and dump it all into a soapy water filled sink.

Maggie0829

H leaves about an hour before me in the morning.  After I am finished getting ready upstairs I go down to the kitchen to feed our pup and make myself some breakfast and lunch to take with me to work.  Each and every morning some type of food has been left out and open from H making his lunch.  One morning I went down to find the mayo, bread, cheese and deli meat along with a dirty butter knife all still out on the counter.  I took a pic and texted it to him.  Honestly, how can you make a sandwhich and then just walk away leaving all the makings sitting out?

AdeleDazeem

hahaha, Maggie!!

I know it's easy to rag on my husband, but I'm no picnic, either.

 

happyfor25

Yep, my H does just about all of the above.  Trash gets left on the counter right above the pull-out trash can.  Dishes are left NEXT to the sink.  Most annoying to me is when he leaves a cabinet door OPEN after getting something out, is it that difficult to CLOSE the cabinet door?!

winelover123

FI never puts the dishes in the dishwasher unless I remind him. He'll put something next to the sink, I'll see and look at him and tell him, "There are dirty dishes in the dishwasher." He also doesn't wash the dishes unless I ask. I also clean the house myself. I don't hold that against FI though because he's working and studying for his CPA. I just want the dishes in the dishwasher!

Maggie0829

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[QUOTE]hahaha, Maggie!! <strong>I know it's easy to rag on my husband, but I'm no picnic, either</strong>.  
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

I completely agree.  I can only imagine what he would complain about.  I know one of his pet peeves is me not letting him sit on the couch once I have dusted, vacuumed, and straightened the couch cushions and pillows.  I usually say "just sit in the recliner, and let the couch look nice for more then 5 minutes!"  I know that it is crazy but it is so irritating to have something you just spent time cleaning and fixing messed up again only seconds later.

Wheels987

Not properly hanging wet towels. It drives me crazy! But he's improved from leaving them on the floor. They're now hung up, but bunched together.

I know he would complain about bobby pins & earrings. I leave those darn things everywhere!

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]Not properly hanging wet towels. It drives me crazy! But he's improved from leaving them on the floor. They're now hung up, but bunched together. I know he would complain about <strong>bobby pins</strong> & earrings. I leave those darn things everywhere!
Posted by Wheels987[/QUOTE]

<div>That and hair ties are his big compaints about me.  Oh and how much hair I lose.</div>

AdeleDazeem

Um, my list would be so long.

I do not tolerate dishes in the sink.  EVER.  If they are not in the dishwasher then they need to be soaking in soap and water next to the sink (cleaning a pot with dried tomato sauce sucks and we live in the city - don't tempt mice with free food).

I really hate repetitive and/or loud noises.  My husband tends to scrape his fork along his plate to get every. last. bit. of sauce.  I freak after about four fork passes.  If I didn't, he'd do it for twenty minutes.  Whenever I get irritated, he looks at me goes "Loud nooooooises!!!"  Haha.

BostonGIrl4732

FI can't get over how much hair I lose.  The hair ties really get to him so I'm careful about where I leave them.  I clean the shower so that I don't have to listen to him complain about it.

JennaMichelle88

Dishes in the sink doesn't bother me. I prefer to do the dishes all at once anyway, or else I feel like I'm doing them all day long. So we both let it pile up a little then load them together.

Peledreamsofrain

Lol, I'm with Joy.  This is a REALLY well-timed thread since my H just dented up my poor car with his habit of backing up solely using mirrors (um... hello?  Blind spots?  Heard of them?)

My H never. closes. anything. ever.  Not the lid to the sugar, not the top of spices, not the cap to sauces, NOTHING.  I've wanted to have rage-fits several times before when I pick something up and it spills everywhere.  Now I just assume everything in the house is open.  It generally works as a policy.  I HAVE had great success getting him to finally close the freakin cabinets so the cats don't lay on our dishes.

s-aries8990

BF never puts his clothes away and doesn't have a designated spot for laundry. So his room is a mess wiht a laundry basket of dirty clothes. and his bathroom has all dirty clothes everywhere. And his hallway has dirty clothes. And my fouton in his living room is ALSO covered in clothes, but these have at least gone through the laundry - but they aren"t folded. Ever. I've gone through some of his clothes with him, bought him laundry baskets, offered to help him organize, and suggested some simple changes that might help, but it DOENS'T MATTER.

He gets mad when I tell him I will NEVER live like that and start getting peeved about not walking on solid ground. He spends at least a two hours between watching tv at night and eating dinner - why doesn"t he do a load THEN, do one load a day... it'll get done faster. "It's not that easy" he says....

lyndausvi

My DH doesn't put lids back on medicine bottles.  Then he puts in it a drawer.  You can imagine what happens when you have open bottles in a drawer.  

His reason is funny.  DH has a phobia of cotton.  It's a real phobia with him. He has me open bottles to make sure it's not stuffed with cotton.  Because of this, he claims he doesn't close the lids because he fears there might be cotton in them when he opens them.  In his mind, cotton might regenerate in the bottle after I've taken them out. 

KaySea6213

FI homebrews and this is obnoxious to me. I love that he has a hobby he really enjoys, but the stuff takes up so much space! And on top of that he saves all the beer bottles, to sanitize and reuse. This would be fine, because it saves us a lot of money, but he lets them all pile up on the counter before her sanitizes them. There were so many bottles yesterday that I threatened to throw them out if they weren't taken care of.

I was in spring cleaning mode yesterday and I had to keep giving him small tasks because everytime he finished one he would inch his way to the tv. So annoying!

AdeleDazeem

aww, poor Lynda's husband!!  I would never make fun of someone's phobia (as I've had one of my own for years).  I'd probably open every bit of medication that comes in our house immediately to remove the cotton.  I'd probably then put a tick mark on the top to say that I'd removed the cotton so he'd be less likely to make a mess. 

I often try to preempt the mess my husband may make.  Then I get angry that I'm constantly being proactive and he's not so then I stop and get angry.  It's a cycle.