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I was going to post this on the budget board where I normally go, but it's not really a "budget" question.

I have my normal wedding ring I wear (i'm going to try to post picture below). We usually take weekend "staycations". But lately we've been traveling further away from home. Everytime we start packing I get this panicky feeling that i'm going to lose my ring and I'll end up leaving the engagement part at home and just wear my band (they're not soldered together). They're not loose or anything but a lot of times we'll go swimming in the hotel pool or in the lake (in summers) and like I said, I just start to panic.

My question is- I was thinking about getting one of those JVL bands just for when we do travel so if I do lose it - it won't be that big of a deal or a loss. What do you guys think? Do any of you have a "second ring"?



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    I voted no because I see another option. Why dont you get your ring insured?
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    I do not have a second ring.   I have fat knuckles and it takes a lot to get off my finger.






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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_second-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:7dd7d378-4a23-4a97-81f7-5ba4119a08abPost:94043740-720e-4688-b010-4b1cf38ef787">Re: Second ring?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I voted no because I see another option. Why dont you get your ring insured?
    Posted by Sierra524[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>This. I got my E ring insured as soon as I got it, through a specific jewelry insurance co. (home owners or renter ins. typically don't cover loss). I also don't wear my ring to the beach or pools. I use the hotel safe, or a hidden pouch in my suit case...</div>



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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_second-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:7dd7d378-4a23-4a97-81f7-5ba4119a08abPost:94043740-720e-4688-b010-4b1cf38ef787">Re: Second ring?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I voted no because I see another option. Why dont you get your ring insured?
    Posted by Sierra524[/QUOTE]

    UGHH. I knew someone was going to ask me this. I have it insured and this may make me sound super crazy but if I lost this ring in my mind - it's "irreplaceable". Sure I could go have one made exactly like it or find another one exactly like it- but it won't be the one I had. Does that make sense. In my mind it makes sense but when I say it out loud to other people (my husband) I get "the look". lol.

    I'm going to ramble for a second- In the summertime we usually go up to a friends house a couple hours away who lives in a tourist town in the country. We hit the flea markets all weekend, garage sales, etc.. Well one time we stopped at an estate sale, we've never been to one of those and thats where I got my band. So attached to these particular bands are my memories- so I won't have <em>my</em> story behind my "new" ring if I ever lose it. Which makes me that much more crazier right? <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />
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    I got a fake e-ring to wear when we went to Ireland.  DH was panicky about it being lost or stolen so the real thing (which I designed and picked out the sapphire so insurance could never replace it to my satisfaction) lived in the safe deposit box for a couple of weeks.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_second-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:7dd7d378-4a23-4a97-81f7-5ba4119a08abPost:582af377-a0df-41ff-85bf-c32343a58402">Re: Second ring?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Second ring? : UGHH. I knew someone was going to ask me this. I have it insured and this may make me sound super crazy but if I lost this ring in my mind - it's "irreplaceable". Sure I could go have one made exactly like it or find another one exactly like it- but it won't be the one I had. Does that make sense. In my mind it makes sense but when I say it out loud to other people (my husband) I get "the look". lol. I'm going to ramble for a second- In the summertime we usually go up to a friends house a couple hours away who lives in a tourist town in the country. We hit the flea markets all weekend, garage sales, etc.. Well one time we stopped at an estate sale, we've never been to one of those and thats where I got my band. So attached to these particular bands are my memories- so I won't have my story behind my "new" ring if I ever lose it. Which makes me that much more crazier right?
    Posted by footballwife77[/QUOTE]

    It did sound kinda crazy until you mentioned how you got the ring. I get it. My ring came from my mom. She got a new set after 10 years of marriage & gave my FI her original set. I would really feel awful if I ever lost it. So I understand the attachment of memories associated with the ring.
    However, I still vote no. I like the PPs advice about keeping it in a safe or something while you are on your vacations. You dont need to wear it to the pool (or anything else that may be risky). Just keep it with your belongings.
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    I know how you feel about your ring.  I'm the same about mine.  It could be replaced, but it wouldn't be the one DH proposed with or the one we got married with.  I'm sentimental like that.  
    I do have a second ring.  I bought it for our honeymoon from Metalsmiths for about $85.  It's quite similar to my wedding band, so I like that.  My real rings went in to get stuck together over our honeymoon and I still wanted to wear something.  I'm glad I did as some guy on the street in Istanbul started talking to me in line for ice cream and wanted to "compare" wedding bands.  He was quite diasppointed with how "small" mine was.  It made me feel a lot better about leaving the real one at home

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_second-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:7dd7d378-4a23-4a97-81f7-5ba4119a08abPost:c789a557-b6b3-4c96-a08a-02b88b88dc78">Re: Second ring?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Second ring? : It did sound kinda crazy until you mentioned how you got the ring. I get it. My ring came from my mom. She got a new set after 10 years of marriage & gave my FI her original set. I would really feel awful if I ever lost it. So I understand the attachment of memories associated with the ring. However, I still vote no. I like the PPs advice about keeping it in a safe or something while you are on your vacations. <strong>You dont need to wear it to the pool (or anything else that may be risky). Just keep it with your belongings.</strong>
    Posted by Sierra524[/QUOTE]

    Like that wouldn't be risky.

    And if you are referencing my post, my ring did not stay in a hotel safe,  It lived at our bank and a fake ring came with me.
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    I vote no. You could just as easily lose or misplace your ring at home or around town. I don't think going on vacation makes it any more likely it will get lost. In my eyes, if it means a lot to me and cost a good deal of money, I'm going to wear the heck out of it. I wore my set swimming in the ocean, swimming with dolphins, hiking, biking, etc. I pretty much never take them off except to sleep (they're both insured).

    I get why it is sentimental but I just don't think logically there is a reason to get a fake band only for travel when you could just as easily have something happen to them at home. The ONE time I could see doing this is if you were going to a place where it was unsafe to wear any sort of flashy or expensive jewelry in public for fear of muggings or violence. Then I might just not wear any ring.


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    I should also note that I worked at resorts in the islands for 16 years.   We would got a lost ring 1-2 times a year.  We had 500 something rooms and averaged 80% occupancy year round.  Point being it's not something that happened enough for me to get worried about.






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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_second-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:7dd7d378-4a23-4a97-81f7-5ba4119a08abPost:cfe95100-e8d8-4d44-a84d-6cbf534e719c">Re: Second ring?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I vote no. You could just as easily lose or misplace your ring at home or around town. I don't think going on vacation makes it any more likely it will get lost. In my eyes, if it means a lot to me and cost a good deal of money, I'm going to wear the heck out of it. I wore my set swimming in the ocean, swimming with dolphins, hiking, biking, etc. I pretty much never take them off except to sleep (they're both insured). I get why it is sentimental but I just don't think logically there is a reason to get a fake band only for travel when you could just as easily have something happen to them at home. <strong>The ONE time I could see doing this is if you were going to a place where it was unsafe to wear any sort of flashy or expensive jewelry in public for fear of muggings or violence. Then I might just not wear any ring.</strong>
    Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]

    <div>This is why I have mine.  Normal travel, I wear my regular rings.  Our honeymoon was through the Eastern Med, and I wasn't comfortable wearing them in places like Turkey and Egypt.  </div>

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     I don't wear my ring when I go swimming - the chlorine is bad for the stone (garnet) and for the gold. It's also pretty big and has a latch that I'm irrationally afraid will come loose while I'm on a roller coaster, so my ring lives in its box in a safe while I'm doing anything active anywhere. When we go to Hawaii it'll live in a safe at my mom's since that will be a fairly active vacation all around. You say you just wear your band - that's what I'd do too. I wouldn't bother with a fake engagement ring. If you're concerned about losing your band too, I can see getting a cheap band that you wear while on vacation.
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    I have a cheap band because I'm cheap.  I also wear gloves at work, so I didn't want anything that could snag my gloves or scratch like my e-ring does.  I plan on wearing the band most days and e ring when we go out or something.  If I were worried about it at all, I'd just not wear a ring if I was concerned it would be lost/stolen in a particular place.

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    I voted yes...My ring is insured...but the diamond is my grandmother's, there is no replacing it.  It almost never comes off my finger, however, both my mother-in-law, and sister-in-laws have second rings that they were for travel.  Not because they'll lose it but because it makes them feel safer.  So, for me, its about the peace of mind whether rational or not.  It works for me. 
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_second-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:7dd7d378-4a23-4a97-81f7-5ba4119a08abPost:6ea8df80-a5de-488a-9ac9-c18fa9187765">Re: Second ring?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Second ring? : Like that wouldn't be risky. And if you are referencing my post, my ring did not stay in a hotel safe,  It lived at our bank and a fake ring came with me.
    Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

    No, I was referring to Lennon's post.
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    We lock mine up at a parent's house when we go away somewhere where it is a concern. It's not worth inviting crime w my real or reallooking ring.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_second-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:7dd7d378-4a23-4a97-81f7-5ba4119a08abPost:4fcc03e2-4ef1-4e24-9158-7c182a7c7b7c">Re:Second ring?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I have to be honest, I never understand the whole "wearing a fake ring" thing. First off, when I don't want to wear either of my rings for whatever reason, I just go without it. Second, the idea that you're somehow more likely to lose your ring 200 miles from home than you are 30 miles from home just makes no sense to me. When we're traveling and I take off my rings, they get immediately zipped into the inner pocket of my purse. Not likely that I'll run off and leave that.
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    Here is why for me:

    1. My wedding ring is a very thin plain band and I don't like how it looks all by its little lonesome.  I got the second ring because DH was nervous about it coming with us.

    2. DH bought stock when he was 19 years old and set it aside to pay for this ring.  Twenty years later, it was an impressive amount.   Yes, it is insured but chances are we would not get enough money to adequately replace it or the insurance company would find a comparable ring (which would probably never come close).  Even if this were not the case...

    3. DH gave an artisan jeweler the budget and told him to work with me on designing the ring I wanted. 

    4. The odds of me losing my ring are extremely low.  There are only three approved places for it: on my hand, in the jewelry box or on a china dish in the dining room.  There is no putting it down and forgetting it.  A friend who worked retail was always amazed at the number of women who would take their rings off to wash their hands in the restrooms and forget to put their rings back on. It just made DH more comfortable to leave it behind and made me more comfortable to have a second ring on my hand,
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    Rings were meant to be worn.  I wear mine everywhere.  I can lose it away from home just as easily as when I'm at work.  I don't buy the theory of "I'm a target because of my rings" while traveling.  ::shrug::  I think overly worrying about rings is just wasted energy.  But that's me.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chasecond-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:7dd7d378-4a-4a97-81f7-5ba4119a08abPost:4fcc03e2-4ef1-4e24-9158-7c182a7c7b7c">Re:Second ring?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I have to be honest, I never understand the whole "wearing a fake ring" thing. First off, when I don't want to wear either of my rings for whatever reason, I just go without it. Second, the idea that you're somehow more likely to lose your ring 200 miles from home than you are 30 miles from home just makes no sense to me.
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]



    I agree.
    I also have an insured but irreplaceable ring and honestly the only two ways I trust it is safe are 1) to always ALWAYS have it on me (I never take it off) and 2) if for some reason I decide not to travel with it, I lock it in our safe deposit box. I try to be careful and turn it inside or wear a glove when I ride public transportation or instances like that.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_second-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:7dd7d378-4a23-4a97-81f7-5ba4119a08abPost:34b2dadb-ffbd-4e83-a284-f72c12c3f003">Re: Second ring?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Rings were meant to be worn.  I wear mine everywhere.  I can lose it away from home just as easily as when I'm at work.  I don't buy the theory of "I'm a target because of my rings" while traveling.  ::shrug::  I think overly worrying about rings is just wasted energy.  But that's me.
    Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>This is me.</div><div>
    </div><div>My ring is one of a kind, custom made with my MIL's diamond.   My wedding band is my grandmother's from 1930.    Still not something I worry about.</div>






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    If you're concerned about losing your ring or having it stolen while you're on vacation, just leave it at home and go without a ring for a few days.  I'm with stage- I don't see why it's necessary to spend money on a placeholder.
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