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clarissadawnchapman

I have a whole list of questions :P

1.) Do the groomsmen usually coordinate colors with the bridesmaids? Do they have to?
2.) If they don't, then how do you distinguish between groom and groomsmen?
3.) I know that the bride's dad wears a tux, but do the dads of the groom? He has a step dad and his birth dad who he's both VERY close too. His mom and I keep discussing this and neither of us have an idea on what they wear?
4.) If they do wear a tux is it black/white or does it have color too?
5.) My dress is like an ivory color, but I don't want to go get "ivory" dyed shoes that cost like $80 somewhere. Any idea of what shoes I could wear?

QueerFemme

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[QUOTE]I have a whole list of questions :P


1.) Do the groomsmen usually coordinate colors with the bridesmaids? Do they have to?
<strong>They can coordinate or compliment. Many people here think the coordinating makes it look very "prom" like. I don't personally have that opinion, but it is pretty common around here.</strong> 

2.) If they don't, then how do you distinguish between groom and groomsmen?
<strong>Different boutonniere.  Different suit/tux. (like, the groomsmen can be in grey suits, the groom in black, or some variation thereof.</strong>    <p style="margin:0in 0in 0pt;" class="MsoNormal">
3.) I know that the bride's dad wears a tux, but do the dads of the groom? He has a step dad and his birth dad who he's both VERY close too. His mom and I keep discussing this and neither of us have an idea on what they wear?

<strong>NONE of the dads need to wear a tux unless you are hosting a black tie affair. A nice suit that they choose in whatever color they choose is perfectly fine.</strong>

4.) If they do wear a tux is it black/white or does it have color too?
<strong>See above answer.
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5.) My dress is like an ivory color, but I don't want to go get "ivory" dyed shoes that cost like $80 somewhere. Any idea of what shoes I could wear?
<strong>Check out DSW, Zappos, 6pm, etc. Many have styles in Ivory.  You can also wear any color shoe you want.  My shoes were a wine color that matched my BMs dresses</strong>


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1.) Do the groomsmen usually coordinate colors with the bridesmaids? Do they have to?
Vests/suits dont have to be same color but should be something that compliment them. You don't want something that will clash since they will all be together for group photos shots.
2.) If they don't, then how do you distinguish between groom and groomsmen? Slightly different flowers
3.) I know that the bride's dad wears a tux, but do the dads of the groom? He has a step dad and his birth dad who he's both VERY close too. His mom and I keep discussing this and neither of us have an idea on what they wear? I left it up to MIL. I asked her what would you like to see him in. She said she would love to see him in a tux, so I told FIL he had to wear a tux.
4.) If they do wear a tux is it black/white or does it have color too? My hubby & groomsmen wore brown because he didn't like look of black tux w/brown vest & I wanted them to have something brown to compliment the girls. They then wore ivory vests. The dad's however wore black tuxes still so that they would stand out as the fathers.
5.) My dress is like an ivory color, but I don't want to go get "ivory" dyed shoes that cost like $80 somewhere. Any idea of what shoes I could wear? I made that mistake with my champagne colored dress. You could easily wear a metallic colored shoe & it would look nice. This way if you spend $80 on the shoes, you would be more likely to be able to wear them again in the future compared to ivory bridal style shoes.

itzMS

A lot of my answers are dittos, but I'll give my versions anyways.

1.) Do the groomsmen usually coordinate colors with the bridesmaids? Do they have to?
Nope. Our groomsmen were in black. Bridesmaids in gray.

2.) If they don't, then how do you distinguish between groom and groomsmen?
Why would it matter? I'd assume he'd be the guy who's with the bride? My DH picked himself out something fancier on his bout...but I don't think anyone noticed.

3.) I know that the bride's dad wears a tux, but do the dads of the groom? He has a step dad and his birth dad who he's both VERY close too. His mom and I keep discussing this and neither of us have an idea on what they wear?

Just let them wear suits they already own.

4.) If they do wear a tux is it black/white or does it have color too?

Again, they don't need to match anyone in the bridal party. Let them wear what they want.

5.) My dress is like an ivory color, but I don't want to go get "ivory" dyed shoes that cost like $80 somewhere. Any idea of what shoes I could wear?

I wore metallic pastel gold flats. If your dress is long, no one will see your shoes.

itzMS

Also, OP, you may want to delete this account and create a new profile and not use your full name as your user name. Internet safety.

hyechica81

dads wear a tux unless you want them in just a sute i think the tux looks more nicer. my brother got married this past november and both fob fog both had tuxes on they both chose the same color of the vest but different from the bridal/grome party also if you are renting a tux most place have a rent 5 get one free so the grooms would be free if they rented 5 

lovesclimbing

1.) Do the groomsmen usually coordinate colors with the bridesmaids? Do they have to?

Usually, at least at the weddings I've seen but it's certainly not a requirement.  At my wedding, the BMs wore eggplant dreses and the GMs wore lavendar shirts, black pants, and ties in the same material as the BMs dresses.

2.) If they don't, then how do you distinguish between groom and groomsmen?  Umm, the groom is probably the one standing closest to the pastor and holding hands with the bride.  The groom will sometimes have a larger boutonniere or be wearing something in a different color or different shade or have an additional clothing item.  H wore a white shirt and a lavendar tie and vest set.

 3.) I know that the bride's dad wears a tux, but do the dads of the groom? He has a step dad and his birth dad who he's both VERY close too. His mom and I keep discussing this and neither of us have an idea on what they wear? They can wear whatever they want.  They certainly don't have to wear a tux.  My dad wore a suit with a purple tie that was the same as the GMs.  H's dad wore dress pants, a white shirt and a striped purple tie.

4.) If they do wear a tux is it black/white or does it have color too?  Again, anything they want.  My dad's suit was black.  

5.) My dress is like an ivory color, but I don't want to go get "ivory" dyed shoes that cost like $80 somewhere. Any idea of what shoes I could wear?  Maybe get them in your wedding colors.  That's always fun.  I wore silver shoes but I'm not sure how that would look with an ivory dress.

loca4pook

Many of the weddings I have attended, dad's DID wear tuxes...I don't know if it is a requirement, but it is definitely something I have seen quite a bit..Just some food for thought..

I personally thinks it looks nice.

We were told  by men's wearhouse that"dad"s usually have a silver or gray vest, but I am sure that is optional choice for you

kipnus

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</div><div>1.) Do the groomsmen usually coordinate colors with the bridesmaids? Do they have to? <strong> <span style="font-size:11px;line-height:14px;">Usually, yes, but they don't have to.</span></strong></div><div>
</div><div>2.) If they don't, then how do you distinguish between groom and groomsmen? <strong>This should be pretty obvious from where the groom is standing, but you can use a different coloured suit/vest/tie/bout/shirt if you like.</strong></div><div>
</div><div>3.) I know that the bride's dad wears a tux, but do the dads of the groom? He has a step dad and his birth dad who he's both VERY close too. His mom and I keep discussing this and neither of us have an idea on what they wear? <strong>Parents can wear whatever they like.</strong></div><div>
</div><div>4.) If they do wear a tux is it black/white or does it have color too? <strong>N/A</strong></div><div>
</div><div>5.) My dress is like an ivory color, but I don't want to go get "ivory" dyed shoes that cost like $80 somewhere. Any idea of what shoes I could wear? <strong>Your shoes do not need to match your dress, especially when they will barely be seen. Many brides are choosing coloured shoes these days. Pick a pair of comfortable shoes that you'll wear again.</strong></div><div><strong>
</strong></div><div>Posted by clarissadawnchapman[/QUOTE]</div><div>
</div><div>Here is a pic of our wedding party, just for funsies. It's kind of hard to see, but H was wearing an orange tie, while the rest of the guys wore green.</div><div>
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Ella and Pedro

I agree with Retread (as usual) about the shoes.  I selected shoes that were based on a longtime love I have for a certain period of design (French Rococco- "Marie Antoinette" shoes with louis-heels)...and I'm having them dyed to match my wedding dress, which is a silver-blue-grey.  Here are the shoes, and the fabric/color.  I am paying a fair amount for these, but another reason for the choice is they have sensible heels, and are custom-made so I believe they will fit well, be comfortable (once broken in) and last a long time.  Leather soles tend to be that way, from my experience.  So, if I was you, I'd get the shoes in a color you love that you think will work for you on other occasions, such as champagne metallic/pale gold.  It would look nice with an ivory gown.  Or, as others said, pick a shoe in a color that coordinates with your flowers, linens, bridesmaids, etc.