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A little history first. My dad has always been a really bad alcoholic as long as I remember but was always a part of my life as a child. Now as I got older and had kids we have fallen out several times because of his intoxicated behaviors. He gets totally disrespectful and belligerent. So I haven't talked to him since 08 when I asked him to come to my graduation from nursing school. He told me no, called me all kinds of bitches, slurs, and hoes. Told me I would never make it life and everything else. This was his normal drunk behavior. He worked for Butternut bread for bout 30 years and got fired for coming to work drunk. I mean he had it bad. So, I have been talking to fiance and telling him how I need to fins my father for the wedding and also just to become closer with him for me and my kids. So my fiance agrees. Now mind you, I have been telling my mom the same thing. She knows I have been trying to find him for several months. Cone to find out, she has a friend that knows how to get in touch with him. But she didn't tell me this until today. I was talking to my cousin and she says Raven I be seeing your dad all the time. He gets on my bus every morning in bond hill and he always ask me if I talked to you. I told him that we talk quite often. So I asked my cousin why she didn't give him my number she say I was but your mom told me not to. Man, I'm so pissed. I call my mom and ask her why she told her not to give him my number she say because he don't need to come to your wedding. He ain't gone do nothing but come drunk and crash the wedding. I'm still furious. I told her to let me make that decision. At the end of the day that's still my father and i deserve to have him walk me down the aisle. Yall I'm so upset right now I don't know what to do. And then my cousin tells me that my dad also goes to her church and that he's there every Sunday. Said he looks good and h is always sober. It brought tears to my eyes. So guess where ill be this Sunday......visiting his church!!!!
Mrs. Mosley 2 be

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  • Awwww thats really messed up that you had to go through that during your childhood but it mayhave made you the woman you are today, and for mom to tell the family to not pass your contact info on was wrong but she may have been just trying to protect you especially after all you two have been through in the past years, dont be mad at her just let her knw that talking to your father is something you choose to do and you want to have him in your life still. I pray that all goes well with you and your father (A GIRL ALWAYS NEEDS HER DADDY IN HER LIFE) and i also pray that God has released that alcohol addiction on him and that he is able and ready to walk you down the aisle and with no drama.....

    Lilypie - H1jI


    Daisypath - MFL5



  • That is so awesome that dad is making a change.. i would be kind of mad at mom too for not letting you make that decision about how you want to approach your dad...keep us updated on the church visit on sunday Im sure it going to be awesome

    Daisypath - (PNE7)
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_vent-14?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:52f22ddf-354a-4eb2-bb6c-3df01e81c5e1Post:8545682d-d6fc-48b3-b145-3cfac884f101">Re: vent</a>:
    [QUOTE]That is so awesome that dad is making a change.. i would be kind of mad at mom too for not letting you make that decision about how you want to approach your dad...keep us updated on the church visit on sunday Im sure it going to be awesome
    Posted by LeciaB[/QUOTE]
    This ! I agree with pp
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_vent-14?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:52f22ddf-354a-4eb2-bb6c-3df01e81c5e1Post:8545682d-d6fc-48b3-b145-3cfac884f101">Re: vent</a>:
    [QUOTE]That is so awesome that dad is making a change.. i would be kind of mad at mom too for not letting you make that decision about how you want to approach your dad...keep us updated on the church visit on sunday Im sure it going to be awesome
    Posted by LeciaB[/QUOTE]



    I second this!
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