Planning thier wedding before mine

marylowrey

My fiance and I have been planning our wedding for over almost two years. We had to have a long engagement to save money so we could have the wedding that we wanted. Its only 8 months away now, and I'm so excited! Last week, my future brother in law got engaged and we are super excited for him and his fiance! The only problem is that they are planning on having their wedding one month before ours and I am super irratated about it. I know its unfair and selfish for me to feel this way, but I cant help but feel that its kind of rude. I dont want to compete for a better wedding, and our wedding will be so different. But they do not care about having their wedding during that month, they just want to hurry up and get married. I feel like I am such a b*tch for feeling this way and I love so insight from other brides.

6fsn

You have the right to your feelings, but they are doing nothing wrong.  You chose a long engagement because you wanted to save money.  They chose a shorter one because they want to start their lives.  Really 7 months isn't that much of a hurry up situation.

mandi195

get over it... you get a day... not a 2 month window

marylowrey

Wow, I am aware that I dont get a two month window, Im not being a bidezilla, I just wanted to vent to someone so I didn't keep it inside. Obviously these are people that Iove and I would never complain to them. However, I would never plan my wedding one month before my sister or brothers. I would never want to take away from someone's big day. We are having joint wedding showers and everything. I know they arent doing anything wrong. Its just making everything harder financially. We have a couple hundred dollars extra that we cant afford to pay for tux and dress for this wedding and right before christmas...Just needed to vent. I don't think anyone (including yall) would like for their sister in law to do that.

missfrodo

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[QUOTE]Wow, I am aware that I dont get a two month window, Im not being a bidezilla, I just wanted to vent to someone so I didn't keep it inside. Obviously these are people that Iove and I would never complain to them. However, I would never plan my wedding one month before my sister or brothers. I would never want to take away from someone's big day. We are having joint wedding showers and everything. I know they arent doing anything wrong. Its just making everything harder financially. We have a couple hundred dollars extra that we cant afford to pay for tux and dress for this wedding and right before christmas...Just needed to vent. I don't think anyone (including yall) would like for their sister in law to do that.
Posted by marylowrey[/QUOTE]

<div>I hope that venting made you feel better, but you have to understand that people are going to reply to your post and try to help you.  PPs are trying to get you to see the big picture--you get one day, he gets one day; you both get to enjoy your wedding days!  Yay!  </div><div>I would personally decline the joint shower--that would be awkward for me, and it sounds like you aren't thrilled about it, either.  </div><div>If you are financially unable to attend your brother's wedding, decline to attend.  Yes, it would be nice to be able to attend the event, but it's not worth putting yourself into debt over; offer to have them over for dinner after both weddings are over and you have some free time and funds.  </div>