Wedding Woes

Two Fathers...Plz help!

I was raised by my Step-dad all my life and my Real dad was in my life but wasn't aloud to be in a leading role. Early in my life I was told my real dad was my uncle..I was in second grade when I found out who he truly was. Since then he and I have been working on our relationship, we have had our ups and downs but have gotten closer throughout the years and now are close. Now let me add I am very very close to my Step-dad..He is my rock, he has brought me up and taught me everything I know. Now that I am engaged and planning a wedding i am torn about how much I should involve my real dad. He has offered to help pay for alot and i feel horrible taking his money and not having him feel special in some way. But my Step-dad and mom are flipping out, they do not want him there or him to have any special things. I want each Dad to feel equal and just to have fun. How can I involve him without the drama? Any Advice? Thanks!

Re: Two Fathers...Plz help!

  • First off, as someone dealing with split parents, I can promise you there will be drama. focus on staying calm and level headed. secondly, just because your father is helping you pay, doesn't mean he can jump in and take over. That being said your mom and stepfather need to understand that your father will be there. Just stick to your guns and do what YOU want. you can't please everyone. Think long and hard about what it is that you want and then go with it.
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