Wedding Woes

Confession

There is a boy on Son's baseball team whose sisters I hate.  They're twins, around DD1's age, I'm guessing a little older.  They've been in the league for several years and we've always lucked out not having this boy on our team (because DH was always the coach until this year and the boy wasn't very good, so DH never picked him).

These girls have no boundaries.  Their mom waits until they've dug through my diaper bag before she'll come get them and lead them back over to her seat.  I've only let them do it once and I was just shocked that there were these two little girls digging snacks and toys out of my bag.  They've attempted to go through my stuff every year (when our team plays theirs) and I always ask them not to do it and to go find their mommy.  Now they're on our team and we see them 3-4 nights per week.

I am more than happy to share our stuff with others. In fact, I always bring extra stuff for that reason. But I don't want their snotty little hands in my bag and I don't appreciate their mom letting them roam the park and do whatever the hell they want and go through people's things. The ballpark is not a babysitter because you're tired. I shouldn't be expected to entertain your children.

Also, one day they offered DD1 gum and DD1 declined, telling them that she isn't allowed to have it.  One of the little girls told her to just spit it out before she gets home so her parents don't find out.  DH HEARD THEM TELLING HER THIS.

I know hating children makes me a horrible person, and I should hate the mom (which I do) and not the kids because it's not their fault, but I can't help it. I would be mortified if my kids were like this.

Re: Confession

  • All I've got is that I feel your pain.    Does mom just sit there oblivious to what the kids are doing?  When you tell them to scat/find their mom, what do they do? Run off and then just come back in  a few?  What does the mom say? 

    Blah.  I hate that other people's asshole kids become your problem in these situations.

    We have a lying and manipulative neighbor kid that comes around when the kiddo's outside.  He's not allowed in our house or garage and the kiddo's not allowed to go to his house.  But when the kids are outside playing in general, how do you tell ONE kid that he can't play?
  • Talk to the mom. I'd say that you do not appreciate her kids behaving like that. Have you talked with other parents? Do they have similar complaints?
  • Mom barely pays attention to where the girls are.  When I tell them to go find their mom, they just run off and play somewhere else.  They come back to visit a couple more times during the game.

    And I do share snacks with them when my girls are having one, but they have to go ask their mom and I have to have a visual "ok" from her before I give them anything.  I make all the kids go ask.  So sometimes they ask her and sometimes they just go play.

    Something else - when my girls are coloring, they want to color too.  Ok fine.  I don't have a problem with it.  But they take crayons from DD2 and DD2 HAAAAATES it.  Once again, go find your mom, girls.
  • If hating children makes you a horrible person, then I'm horrible, too.  It's not like you're saying you hate your OWN children, you know?  :\
  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    I've learned that if you are "mean mom" the kids don't come back.  I tell kids they need to ask mom/dad before getting a snack.  If they start to get in things I tell them no and send them back.
  • WzzWzz member
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    i would be terrible at these sorts of events. i regularly yell at other people's children who are behaving terribly. i yell, not only because the kid is a nightmare, but because the parents aren't doing a thing about it. i probably have to reign that in before i start attending these things.

    so, yeah. i would probably call over to the kids' parents, "Hey, Yoo hoo, your [names of things 1 and 2] are over here, i just thought i'd let you know." and then close up the diaper bag and tell them to run along back to their mom or something.

    i'm clearly not nice to kids.
  • WzzWzz member
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    ditto, 6. but more along the lines of, stop sharing snacks with them. they'll stop coming back.
  • "get your hands out of my bag, go sit with your mom, and behave yourselves"

    I have no problem yelling at other peoples' kids. if the mom takes issue with it, tell her to keep her brats under control - they're not your responsibility. "I wouldn't have to discipline your kids if you were actually parenting them. If you don't like it, keep them away from me."
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    [QUOTE]Talk to the mom. I'd say that you do not appreciate her kids behaving like that. Have you talked with other parents? Do they have similar complaints?
    Posted by PMeg819[/QUOTE]

    PMeg - this year, our girls are the only little ones on our team.  I've seen them go up to other people in previous years and they do the same as I do and send them away (nicely).

    I've had many a conversation with this woman in my head and I'm not very nice in all of them.  I am not afraid to say something to her, but I certainly don't want to look like a child hater.  I am annoyed enough already that I probably will ask her to not let them get all up in our biz and ask them to ask me for things before trying to take them.
  • So, you discipline them, right? Because I would be giving lectures like you wouldn't believe. No, it's not your job, but someone has to, right? 

    Right. 
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  • I tell them not to go through my bag and send them away.  Maybe I should become the "mean mom" to them.
  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    My guess is you won't come off as the child hater.  Instead I bet the other parents applaud.
  • read the sorority girl email aloud to them, taw.
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    [QUOTE]read the sorority girl email aloud to them, taw.
    Posted by hmonkey[/QUOTE]

    You just might be a genius.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_confession-112?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:657fc067-94a7-4614-96d7-da7810e9bf31Post:281dacc3-2603-457e-a0fe-7730a599350b">Re: Confession</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confession : You just might be a genius.
    Posted by tawillers[/QUOTE]

    <div>word</div>
  • "if you b*ners don't get your grubby, snot -covered paws  the hell out of my bag, i'm going to c*nt-punt you into next week."
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    [QUOTE]"if you b*ners don't get your grubby, snot -covered paws  the hell out of my bag, i'm going to c*nt-punt you into next week."
    Posted by *Barbie*[/QUOTE]

    But I'd need them to tell me if they're mentally slow first.
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    [QUOTE]"if you b*ners don't get your grubby, snot -covered paws  the hell out of my bag, i'm going to c*nt-punt you into next week."
    Posted by *Barbie*[/QUOTE]



    DED.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confession : But I'd need them to tell me if they're mentally slow first.
    Posted by tawillers[/QUOTE]

    Literally
  • ::snort::

    I am 100% in favor of hating horrible children.
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  • DG1DG1 member
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    I am so glad we don't participate in any organized kid activities. Wow.

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  • In Response to Re:Confession:[QUOTE]I am so glad we don't participate in any organized kid activities. Wow. Posted by DG1[/QUOTE]
    Yes, raise your kids in a bunker in your basement. That won't make them the awkward weirdos at school.
  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_confession-112?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:657fc067-94a7-4614-96d7-da7810e9bf31Post:5659c275-1266-4439-9f4a-8114c61b4b9d">Re: Confession</a>:
    [QUOTE]I am so glad we don't participate in any organized kid activities. Wow.
    Posted by DG1[/QUOTE]

    Your day will come DG.
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