Just do it

CandieR90

Hey guys and gals. I am having major internal conflict. About two months ago my mom who has been on and off chemo for 7 years was hospitalized for what they thought was a heart attack. She decided after that she needed a break fast forward 2 months. She called me this morning and told that her count has sky rocketed to 400 if you don't know the 20 range is about normal. I think back to they day she went into the hospital and my heart starts to race and I get all nervous. I knew taking a break was the best thing for her because her body was shutting down. My fiance and I lost his mother a year ago and it still hurts knowing she won't see us get married. I don't want my mom  to miss it. It may seem kinda selfish but, that is the one thing i always wanted my mommy to be there. We don't have anything set in stone no venues booked. So I was thinking why not just get married us and our parents (his dad & girlfriend and my mom & dad) We have our wedding rings already. I don't think anyone wants a parent to miss a huge moment and their lives some of us don't have that chance and I don't want to miss it. 

thejucheidea

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[QUOTE]Hey guys and gals. I am having major internal conflict. About two months ago my mom who has been on and off chemo for 7 years was hospitalized for what they thought was a heart attack. She decided after that she needed a break fast forward 2 months. She called me this morning and told that her count has sky rocketed to 400 if you don't know the 20 range is about normal.
Posted by CandieR90[/QUOTE]
I'm guessing you mean her tumor marker has elevated? Maybe a CA 15-3 or CA 125?

And I'd really think hard about dropping everything and having your wedding now. If you see audrewuh on the boards, her dad died a few weeks ago and her wedding is in three days. Instead of moving the wedding up, they had a blessing at his bedside right before he passed. The pictures are beautiful -- one of them is at the end of her post here: <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wr-aw-im-12-days-away">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wr-aw-im-12-days-away</a>

Also, tumor markers are not necessarily indicative of horribly progressed disease. I'd wait until you get a CT scan and review options with her oncologist.

footballwife77

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[QUOTE]In Response to Just do it :  If you see audrewuh on the boards, her dad died a few weeks ago and her wedding is in three days. Instead of moving the wedding up, they had a blessing at his bedside right before he passed. The pictures are beautiful -- one of them is at the end of her post here: <strong><a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wr-aw-im-12-days-away">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wr-aw-im-12-days-away</a>


</strong>This just made me cry. How SPECIAL!!!

thejucheidea

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Just do it : [QUOTE]This just made me cry. How SPECIAL!!!
Posted by footballwife77[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I got pretty choked up when I saw the pictures. Her dad was taking one of the drugs that my clinic tested for lung cancer, so I thought that was pretty cool. She says it gave him an extra year and a half :).

suzyk723

Thats sounds like a wonderul day. There will be less stress on everyone. And if God forbid you lose your mother you will miss her not being at the wedding. You could even have a bigger ceremony or reception later on. Family First.