Bridesmaid & Bridesmaid dress Woes....

Redheadbride2be18

I am in need of some advice.   I have found my bridesmaid's dresses, and 2 of the 3 bridesmaids have already been sized and made the downpayment deposit. It's now a month later, I have talked to my third bridesmaid about getting her dress ordered but she keeps pushing it off... saying we have time. My bridal consultant has let me know multiple times that its taking bridesmaids dresses 12-14wks to come and in and my 2 other bridesmaids are going to need some alterations, my wedding isn't until Oct. but I'm feeling stressed about the potential deadline.

   Her and I have been friends since highschool.  I was thrilled to be a part of her wedding, and be there for her first born, and just recently her second, but I'm feeling conflicted.  I understand she just had her second baby, bought a new car, and her husband hasn't gone back to work yet due to the weather.. (yes its April and its STILL snowing in MN!!) She keeps giving me the excuse that the end of June would be better....but how can I get her to comit to putting the money down on the dress so we can get them ordered sooner!??  Help!

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Your wedding is not until October. Calm down there's no reason to rush, the consultant is just trying to make a sale. Find out the absolute last day the dress can be ordered, let the BM know then leave it alone. Quit badgering her. She has plenty of time to get the dress. If for some reason she ends up not purchasing it in time then she removes herself from the wedding. If you don't want that t happen, you could purchase it for her and she could pay you back.

6fsn

A new kid, new car, and no job?  Your wedding is the last thing on her mind in this moment.  She committed to a time to put down money in June.  That is still FOUR months before your wedding. 

So here's what you do.  Go buy a small baby book or little pack of diapers.  Go coo at the baby and tell your FRIEND "Congrats.  June would be perfect."

MNNEBride

Listen to 6 - she has good advice.

AddieCake

Ditto 6. Your friendship needs to come before your wedding. 

Wzz

the sales people at the salon are going to push the sale, so i wouldn't worry about the time it takes for the dress to come in. i WOULD listen to your friend who has no job and a kid and a multitude of other things she needs to focus on. if she doesn't get the dress in time, then she doesn't get the dress. it has nothing to do with how much she likes you as a friend.

kerbohl

I agree with PP and just like to add that if she just had a baby, she might also be putting off ordering the dress beause her body just went through a huge change.  Let her order her dress as late as she can with it still coming in in time for your wedding. 

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[QUOTE]Thanks Ladies, I need to learn to breath alittle, slight verification, she does have a job, she is just on maternity leave.  I also forgot to mention that we are holding the order until she puts her dress in, so they are dyed the same color material.  My two other bridesmaids are also waiting...again they will need some alterations So my next question is then.... <strong>Do i go ahead and order the other 2 girl's dresses and then have her order hers at the later date?</strong>
Posted by Redheadbride2be18[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes, bridal shops claim the dresses all have to be ordered together so they go through the same dye. It's bull, go ahead and order the other girls' dresses, you'll see no difference in the color.</div>

Redheadbride2be18

Thanks so much ladies!!!!

Little did I know that my friend is in another wedding around June, and just brought that to my attention now... would have been nice to a little sooner.  But we chit chatted and she and I completley understand eachothers situations now....... Guess thats why I love her.  Thanks again!!!