A little bit of venting about family

cborries

I know I should be happy that people want to attend my wedding, but when it comes to a few certain family members, I feel like they only want to show up to gossip about me and my new family and my wedding decisions.  There's a reason my wedding is 3,000 miles away from my family....  I didn't want the drama of a big wedding and people being offended and needing seating charts and hearing snarky comments about my mom and step dad and in-laws.

I just have a feeling that they are going to try to tell me that they should be invited to the rehearsal dinner because they traveled that far and that I need to serve a real meal instead of just appetizers.  Not to mention the constant gasps about the wedding not being in a church or having any religious affiliation.

*sigh*  Just wanted to complaing on here instead of to my fiance.  He hears me complain enough about everything else.

*Barbie*

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[QUOTE]I need to serve a real meal instead of just appetizers. 
Posted by cborries[/QUOTE]
if you're having a reception during a standard mealtime, then yes, you need to serve an actual meal. 

Lyds85

I agree, if your wedding is near mealtime, serve a meal. appetizer weddings should be afternoon or late night. at the very least, warn people that its just appetizers. as far as worrying what people think, I do the same thing. but I promise you someone will have something to say. just focus on your fiance and forget what people think. its not about them. try not to worry hun

Ella and Pedro

If your family are traveling a really long distance to be there, it is courteous to offer a welcome brunch or dinner.  We have friends and family coming from all over, and while I wish I could afford to offer everyone a welcome to Baltimore meal, it's not in our budget.  However, for our aunts, uncles, parents, siblings, and elderly guests who make the trip, we are including them in our Rehearsal Dinner - which will be at a nice restaurant with a full meal - appetizers, salad, entree, dessert, and wine.  You need not go so formal, but at least sandwiches and salads in your living room or on the porch? 

thejucheidea

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[QUOTE] I just have a feeling that they are going to try to tell me that they should be invited to the rehearsal dinner because they traveled that far and that I need to serve a real meal instead of just appetizers. 
Posted by cborries[/QUOTE]
Um, well, actually, yeah. When my parents got married, they invited all of my dad's family to the rehearsal dinner because they'd flown from California to Tennessee to come to the wedding. We're planning to do the same for any of my family members who come from California to attend our wedding. It's the courteous thing to do.