I recently got engaged to someone from a different culture and has a disability. My parents have been strongly against our relationship solely because of these two issues, but more the latter. (Everything else about him is fine: non-abusive, truly loves me, financially independent, etc... pretty much everything parents would want from a son-in-law.) They live overseas, have not spoken to him before, and continue refusing to speak to him. They also avoid speaking to me about him. I have already tried using subtle hints to see if they would continue that line of conversation, but they wouldn't budge.
I was more understanding when our relationship started because it takes time for parents to adjust to that sort of shock. Two years should be more than enough time to get over that shock. Their worries about his disability are not unfounded but I am aware of the health problems he may have later in life. Long story short, my fiance and I know what we're getting ourselves into.
My parents don't know that we are engaged yet and we plan on telling them within the month. The question is: how to break the news? I am expecting a dramafest but would like as much damage control as possible. What should I say once they start reacting negatively to it? Keep in mind that there is no way to ease that information in slowly. As I said before, they refuse to mention him at all when we talk on the phone.