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Random phobia story

Have I mentioned that I have a pretty severe wasp/hornet/yellowjacket phobia?  I'm okay with bees, but anything else that stings makes me kind of crazy.  I have been extremely careful to be normal in front of the Wooz so she wouldn't pick it up, but it must be inborn because she has it anyway. 

I picked her up from school earlier this week, one of the first truly gorgeous days of the year.  So my car windows were open.  I buckled her up, went to reach for her stuffed Simba, and saw a nasty looking wasp creeping around just millimeters from Simba.  So I froze up and weighed my options:  pull her out of the car, run like mad, and hope it left sometime before dinner time so we could eventually drive home; or keep calm and carry on, figuring it would eventually fly back out since we had nothing it wanted anyway.  I chose the latter.

As I pulled out of our parking spot, I said as casually as I could, "Just so you know, there is a wasp in the car.  It's not going to bother us, but if it flies past you, just pretend it's not there.  You don't want to swat it, okay?"

She went straight to the obvious:  "Because it will sting me?!"

[deep breath]  "Well, if you swat at something that stings, there is always a chance that it might try to sting you.  But if you leave it alone, it will leave you alone."

"Mommy, get it out of the car!"

[another deep breath] "I wish I had a good way to do that, but I don't.  We don't want to scare it or make it mad, so we're just going to leave it alone until it decides to fly away.  You probably won't even see it."

(Keep in mind that all the while, I want to scram "Ohmygod ohmygod ohmyGOD there is a muthafvcing wasp in the muthafvcking car!  Save me, Jeebus!")

All is quiet for about 20 seconds, and then she starts screeching at the top of her lungs.

Me:  "WHAT?  WHAT'S WRONG?  WHAT HAPPENED?"

"OWWWWWWWIE!"  [CRYING]

"DID IT STING YOU?  ARE YOU HURT?"

"NO!"

"THEN WHY ARE YOU SCREAMING?"

"I DON'T LIKE IT!"

So now we're both a little lightheaded and still about two miles from the house.  I had to do my very best to talk us both down and basically started babbling whatever borderline comforting thing I could think of:  it's more scared of you than you are of it, it knows you could squish it if you wanted to so it's going to leave you alone--but don't try to squish it!  I'm just saying.  Anyway, I've been stung twice and I didn't love it, but it's not the worst thing in the world.  No worse than a skinned knee, definitely not as bad as when you broke your arm."  Just babble, while the voice in my head screamed "Get out of the car!  You can make it on foot from here!  Just run and don't look back!"

We made it home in one piece, left all of the car windows and the garage open to encourage it to leave, and fled indoors.  By then, it had moved to the back window, and I checked on it every 3 minutes until I didn't see it anymore.  Left the windows open overnight just in case.  Never heard from it again.  That was DD's lead story when DH arrived home.

Re: Random phobia story

  • GBCKGBCK member
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    I laughed a bit...
    but that makes complete sense to me.

    (I am adamant that Buffy not go swimming w/ me.  period.  I don't think I can hold my phobia in check enough not to freak her out.
    Hell, phobia #2 almost came to a head when we had her at the eye docs...I had to stare at the ceiling and hum loudly while they put her eyedrops in (while holding her and insisting it was fine))
  • DG1DG1 member
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    I laughed, too. I'm sorry, Heffa. 

    And I freaked the hell out at a stinkbug in the car the other day. A stinkbug - worst case, it dies and stinks. That's it. I was glad the boys weren't with me to see my momentary flip out while I got rid of it.

    Both boys have been stung. Des when he was *really* little. All he could say was 'beeeeeeeeeeeeee!," and we were impressed he even managed that word, because his whole vocabulary at the time was about 30 words. Dex last summer, and hissweet little toe was swollen for a week. 

    And H is all "Don't spray poison at them! The residue will live on, and we'll all get cancer!" and I'm all like "I AM spraying poison on it so we don't all get STUNG!"  You should see him roll his eyes when I use weed killer or spray actual Raid on anything. 


    OK. I"m rambling now. It's been a long day. I'll just close by saying I'm really glad you and theWoozle escaped unharmed.

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  • Your inner monologue is awesome.  

    I'm glad everyone made it out okay.  Even the wasp.  :)
  • Heee!  I'm glad you both survived the drive. 
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  • Oh, and it hurts way more than a skinned knee, IMO.  The last time I was stung I was in a setting that I couldn't jump up and scream.  I was trying to keep a straight face and not let on that anything happened, but my foot was hurting so bad that I started to tear up. 
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  • You should be proud of yourself. You have far more self control than I do. I remember when I was in junior high and was watching TV with my family. I was telling a joke I heard from school when my 6-year-old brother screeched, "There's a spider on your back!" Both Mom and I are terrified of spiders. My first instinct was to scream, throw my shirt off and do the shake. Mom did one of the most courageous things I've ever seen: she reached over grabbed the spider from my shirt and squeezed as hard as possible, all the while screaming. Go Mom!
  • As someone who also has a phobia, I have complete respect for your reaction - you handled it pretty well! 

  • One time, I saw a wasp in my room after I'd taken 10 mg of Ambien. I was terrified of the wasp, so I started fighting the Ambien, which made me start having Ambien delusions. I remember spraying the wasp with Febreeze because it was on hand then beating the sweet mercy out of it with a flip flop. What I didn't remember until the next day was putting it into a censer and lighting it on fire. I opened the censer to burn some incense, saw the burnt-out wasp carcass and was like '......... what is this.'

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_random-phobia-story?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:b31522e3-034e-49cc-ae43-72a927ab3532Post:9c69ccd5-9017-47be-a327-79c000cdeecb">Re: Random phobia story</a>:
    [QUOTE]One time, I saw a wasp in my room after I'd taken 10 mg of Ambien. I was terrified of the wasp, so I started fighting the Ambien, which made me start having Ambien delusions. I remember spraying the wasp with Febreeze because it was on hand then beating the sweet mercy out of it with a flip flop. What I didn't remember until the next day was putting it into a censer and lighting it on fire. I opened the censer to burn some incense, saw the burnt-out wasp carcass and was like '......... what is this.'
    Posted by ahstillwell[/QUOTE]

    Oh.Mai.GAWD!!

    It's not funny...but it's funny.  I didn't know about Ambien delusions, but your story just cracked me up!

    I don't have any bug phobias myself. 

    I won't walk across those big "grates" in a parking lot though.  I'm worried my foot will somehow slip in and I'll break my ankle or leg.  Is that random? 
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_random-phobia-story?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:b31522e3-034e-49cc-ae43-72a927ab3532Post:880220bf-491c-4b28-982d-174e06afc3f9">Re: Random phobia story</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Random phobia story :  I won't walk across those big "grates" in a parking lot though.  I'm worried my foot will somehow slip in and I'll break my ankle or leg.  Is that random? 
    Posted by shaylagirl[/QUOTE]
    I can't walk over grates or vents of any kind. I'm also afraid of cotton balls, toilet tanks, most condiments, sticky things on my fingers, hordes of ants, long periods of time in the sun, JetSkis, large numbers of people and my nurse manager.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Random phobia story : I can't walk over grates or vents of any kind. I'm also afraid of cotton balls, toilet tanks, most condiments, sticky things on my fingers, hordes of ants, long periods of time in the sun, JetSkis, large numbers of people and my nurse manager.
    Posted by ahstillwell[/QUOTE]

    Awesome.  Sorry. But, this list is awesome.  You remind me of Monk.  Are you also afraid of milk? Please say yes.

    I once got stung repeatedly (by a wasp or hornet or something?) in my hand.  5 times.  I had thought this thing was dead, and went to pick it up and throw it out the car window, and in the time it was in my hand before throwing it out, it got it's thrills on my right hand.  I think I was about 12.
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