Wedding Woes

Mom Troubles...I think?

Hey yall. I got officially engaged last year (at 20) to my boyfriend of 2.5 years. Our wedding won't be till next year (I'm getting my bachelors & a steady job first) in October. When we decided to tell everyone we were getting married I thought my mom would be excited. I was thinking there would be planning, talks of flowers, dresses, etc. But instead there is just...nothing. She didn't act excited. She didn't really act mad. Just...nothing.
It kinda hurt my feelings and made me worry that she isn't happy or doesn't want part in this. Every time I try to talk about the wedding she either ends up getting annoyed or changes the subject completely. Me and my FH are paying for the wedding (yes we actually have $ put back) so it's not like she has to pay for anything except a MOB dress. I've tried talking to her about it and she denies being unhappy about it & claims she's excited. But I know better.

Did anyone else experience this? Any idea what's going on?

"It's not going to be easy. It's going to be really hard. We're gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, you and me, everyday."

Re: Mom Troubles...I think?

  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    A few things could be happening:

    1) She's worried you are too young
    2) She's worried planning a wedding could take away from your studies
    3) She doesn't like your FH
    4) She's not that into weddings. 
    5) She doesn't want another 18 months of wedding talk.

  • 6) she's worried that she'll have to support the two of you / you'll be asking to move in / etc. because you're young and don't have a degree/steady employment yet

    my advice would be to graduate, get the job, and then start planning the wedding. Depending on your degree/location, you may find a difficult time lining up a good/steady job.

    it's great that you're being responsible and finishing school/saving up, but there's no harm in waiting an additional year until you're a little more established. 

    my H and I got married at 23, so I'm not going to fault you on the age thing - If the two of you are supporting yourselves (paying all of your expenses/insuarce/rent/mortgage/etc.), and acting as adults, then i really don't think it's a factor.





  • 7) She's fine with it, just not all asquee over it, and you're reading too much into that.
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