Location issues *sigh*

BRS11

My fiancé and I want to get married in a small ceremony in cancun mexico (26 people total) while our families want us to have the huge church wedding & reception. Their arguement is that it's "tradition" and that it isn't fair to them that we "elope" (as they put it). Our arguement is that we're the ones paying for it and neither one of us wants the big shebang. This has caused so many arguements between everyone I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm trying to avoid hurt feelings but it seems no matter what we do it's not gonna make anyone happy. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

tawillers

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[QUOTE]My fiancé and I want to get married in a small ceremony in cancun mexico (26 people total) while our families want us to have the huge church wedding & reception. Their arguement is that it's "tradition" and that it isn't fair to them that we "elope" (as they put it). Our arguement is that we're the ones paying for it and neither one of us wants the big shebang. This has caused so many arguements between everyone I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm trying to avoid hurt feelings but it seems no matter what we do it's not gonna make anyone happy. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Posted by BRS11[/QUOTE]

The most important people in this decision are you and your FI.  If this is what you want, this is what you want.  Personally, "tradition" doesn't matter to me, so that argument wouldn't affect me at all.

That being said, destination weddings are an inconvenience to guests. Not everyone is going to be able to afford to make this trip.  There are a lot of expenses - airfare, lodging, food, etc. Even if you and your FI can pay for all of that for everyone, not everyone will be able to take time off work/other responsibilities, so just know that upfront.

While I think it's crappy that your families are making such a stink over this, I do understand that they may be upset about all of the accommodations or just upset that they can't make it to your wedding.

In the end, you and your FI should do what makes you guys happy and not try to please everyone, but also, don't throw a fit if people can't attend your wedding.

Wzz

there has been about 4 or 5 of these exact same posts recently. even though the locations are all different, the advice is usually the same.