As I read through different discussion boards on different wedding sites I have come to notice one continuous theme. Perfection. I am completely bothered by this because as I go through the wedding plan process, all I can think about is how to make everything fun, not perfect. My friends and family seem to be confused by my mindset when they ask me questions and my response is "I don't care". Now I am not saying that I do not care about my wedding, I am saying that all of these small details such as "do you want me in a long or short dress" (my mom), or "what do you want me to do with my hair?" (bridesmaids), or "what color dress should I wear?" (Nana) do not matter. What matters is that everyone I love is there, celebrating my marriage and enjoying themselves. I am beginning to loathe coming to this site because most of what I read is can I do this, or you cant do that. I think us brides need to remember that this is our wedding, not everyone elses. Have fun and stop worrying about what everyone thinks. To tell someone that they should not have funny invitations because it is not proper is preposterous! I think we all need to loosen up and do what we want to do. At my wedding my bridesmaids will be in different dresses, with different shoes, and different hairstyles. My mother will be wearing a short blue dress, and my Nana might show up in jeans. Oh no! If everything isn't perfect then it isn't the end of the world. In the end I know that the people that are there are there because they love me, and not because they want to judge me.
Sorry for the ranting, but I am so sick of hearing about ettiquette and perfection. Hate me for this post if you want, but I will be the one with the wedding that everyone talks about because it was fun, not because the flowers were perfectly centered on the table.