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what should the flower girl carry?

So, funny story.  FI has a niece who is a little over 3.  We were at our venue today finalizing our meal choices, getting escort cards, etc and our coordinator was asking us questions and having a flower girl/ring bearer came up.  FI was like, oh well, it's up to X what she wants to do so we wont' know until closer to the wedding.  At the same time, the coordinator and I were like, um, well, if she plans on being in the wedding, she needs to have a flower/basket to carry and needs to be ready in advance.  Haha, FI had like, no clue. 

At any rate, we confirmed today that his niece would like to be in the wedding.  Since she's pretty young, and there is the possibility she'll freak out once she sees all the people and decide not to participate, what should we have her carry?  My mom though maybe a small bouquet, because in the event she backs out that bouquet might still be usable in a vase on the gift table or something and wont' seem like a waste of money.  But is a basket more common?

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    What about a small pomander?
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    You could also have your florist (or yourself) make a "princess" wand with flowers and ribbons.
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    Our flowergirls are both the same age. They have a small wrist pomander and then we have little baskets they can carry with fake flower petals from Michael's to throw. We were also worried that they would freak out when they saw all the people looking at them, so their mother's are going to walk with them down the isle.
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    Mine was 2 years old.  She freaked out once she saw her grandpa in the crowd.  Everyone remembers her adorable meltdown, but they probably couldn't tell you she was carrying a basket I handmade.  Whatever she carries will be fine.  You could get a basket at Michael's/Jo Ann's, etc and tie a matching ribbon on it and put a few petals in it.  You'd have maybe $5 in it.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-should-the-flower-girl-carry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:05475da6-140c-4841-844d-74fc199dde31Post:f7abf1c9-218b-4e8d-a1a2-d31cbfe65ad0">Re: what should the flower girl carry?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Mine was 2 years old.  She freaked out once she saw her grandpa in the crowd.  Everyone remembers her adorable meltdown, but they probably couldn't tell you she was carrying a basket I handmade.  Whatever she carries will be fine.  You could get a basket at Michael's/Jo Ann's, etc and tie a matching ribbon on it and put a few petals in it.  You'd have maybe $5 in it.
    Posted by annmarie714[/QUOTE]

    Perfect idea.  Yeah my thought was that if it seems lkke she's going to have a meltdown to maybe have her walk down in between her grandparents (FI's parents), she absolutely adores them since they babysit her during the work week.  Alternatively, her dad is one of FI's groomsmen so she could also walk down with him.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-should-the-flower-girl-carry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:05475da6-140c-4841-844d-74fc199dde31Post:3bf48679-93d1-4845-954a-0f7815ae33cb">what should the flower girl carry?</a>:
    [QUOTE]So, funny story.  FI has a niece who is a little over 3.  We were at our venue today finalizing our meal choices, getting escort cards, etc and our coordinator was asking us questions and having a flower girl/ring bearer came up.  FI was like, oh well, it's up to X what she wants to do so we wont' know until closer to the wedding.  At the same time, the coordinator and I were like, um, well, if she plans on being in the wedding, she needs to have a flower/basket to carry and needs to be ready in advance.  Haha, FI had like, no clue.  At any rate, we confirmed today that his niece would like to be in the wedding.  Since she's pretty young, and there is the possibility she'll freak out once she sees all the people and decide not to participate, what should we have her carry?  My mom though maybe a small bouquet, because in the event she backs out that bouquet might still be usable in a vase on the gift table or something and wont' seem like a waste of money.  But is a basket more common?
    Posted by SB1512[/QUOTE]

    My florist is making a little "flower wand" for my niece who is little..
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    Our girls carried little mini bouquets. It doesn't matter what they carry, chances are, no one will notice or remember.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-should-the-flower-girl-carry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:05475da6-140c-4841-844d-74fc199dde31Post:8a816f9f-44f1-4aa2-acc9-5718f8e3f5b4">Re: what should the flower girl carry?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to what should the flower girl carry? : My florist is making a little "flower wand" for my niece who is little..
    Posted by loca4pook[/QUOTE]

    Yeah I was thinking this would be good.  She's totally in a princess phase so having a "wand" will make it extra exciting!
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    My FG had a pomander as well (she's just under three) We were worried about a freak out as well, so we let her mother walk with her and wanted her to be able to hold mom's hand while not worrying about a basket. So she had a pomander in one hand and mom's hand in the other.
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