What is the Etiquette on Inviting your make-up artist if she's also a co-worker?

kiralbanks

I am having a really hard time deciding to invite my make-up artist or not. She is a co-worker of mine and we are fairly close however, we do not hang-out outside of work. She has offered to do my make-up as her wedding gift to me and has also offered to help with the wedding. We talk about my wedding plans almost daily. 

What do I do? Do I need to invite her and her boyfriend?

winelover123

I think you should invite her (and her BF) if you're going to take her up on her offers of help unless you plan on hiring her as a vendor of sorts (other than the make-up). Since you talk wedding plans daily and work with her, I think I'd invite her. It would be really nice.

ETA: What PP said too if you aren't planning on inviting her - offer to pay her for her work so there isn't a mixed message.

MuppetFan

I'd invite her. Or not use her for your make up.

FizzySips

I'm in a very similar situation - except that the woman offering to do my make-up is a licensed make-up artist AND she's my direct report. I'm wrestling with the idea of asking to hire her, but I don't want it to feel like she has to do it.

Kate61487

Forget whether or not she does your make-up; I think you should invite her because you're talking about your wedding to her DAILY.  It's no wonder she thinks she's invited (which I'd assume since she's pre-emptively offering you a wedding gift).  If you weren't going to invite her you should have kept your mouth shut about wedding details. 

If you aren't going to invite her you need to quit talking wedding so much.

STARMOON44

You need to invite her at this point.

harper0813

You talk to her about your wedding regularly, and she's giving you a gift. Definitely invite her and her SO.

LiLe422

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[QUOTE]Forget whether or not she does your make-up; I think you should invite her because you're talking about your wedding to her DAILY.  It's no wonder she thinks she's invited (which I'd assume since she's pre-emptively offering you a wedding gift).  If you weren't going to invite her you should have kept your mouth shut about wedding details.  If you aren't going to invite her you need to quit talking wedding so much.
Posted by Kate61487[/QUOTE]

Yesssss.  You really should invite her and her bf. 

heathertims

I am in this exact situatution except I'm the MUA. We also are very friendly at work, but don't see each other outside. I do not expect an invite. 

I offered my services (for free) because i have had a hard time transitioning at into a new job, and she helped me a lot, so why not help her on her big day? Also, it's a great way to network for future clients  

I am getting married the month after, and she knows she was not on the list as I have already sent out my invites. we talk about planning often, and give each other tips and tricks, but thats it. 

Kate61487

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[QUOTE]I am in this exact situatution except I'm the MUA. We also are very friendly at work, but don't see each other outside. I do not expect an invite.  I offered my services (for free) because i have had a hard time transitioning at into a new job, and she helped me a lot, so why not help her on her big day? Also, it's a great way to network for future clients :)  I am getting married the month after, and she knows she was not on the list as I have already sent out my invites. <strong>we talk about planning often</strong>, and give each other tips and tricks, but thats it. 
Posted by heathertims[/QUOTE]

I do think fellow brides can be an exception to the "don't talk about the wedding with people who aren't invited" rule.  As long as it's a mutual exchange (even then if there's any question it's better to err on the side of not).  OP said "we talk about MY wedding" which makes me thing the MUA/friend is not a bride