Addressing Save the Dates

ohmrs2014

Hey ladies. I am starting the compile addresses for our Save the Dates and I have a few questions.  Yes, I know I have a few months but I'm home with a broken ankle bored out of my mind so I figured I'd get started on this task.  We also plan on sending out our Save the Dates around 8-9 month mark.  Even though we aren't having a DW per say, there will be travel required and gives everyone ample opportunity to decide what they want to do.

I did a search and so far I found a few answers, though the search tool on here isn't that great LOL.  So far this is what I have found:

A.  Anyone over the age of 18 but still living at home with their parents, should receive their own invitation, so I will apply this to the Save the Date as well.

B. That anyone who is in a relationship gets invited as a couple, which I am totally ok with.

Now for my questions:

1.  When addressing the Save the Dates, do I add the "and Guest" to the envelope to let people know that they will be allowed to bring someone, whether they are in a relationship or not?  I know that things and relationships can change 8-9 months before the wedding, so I figured I would play it safe and not address the envelopes with specific guests names unless they are married or living together.

2.  Do couples who do not live together get one Save the Date to only one address but addressed to the both of them or do they each get their own sent to their respective places?  I know that they have been talking about getting engaged (YAY for them I would be excited they have been together for over 10 years, since HS) and moving in together.  She does spend a couple of nights a week at his place, but as far I know they aren't officially living together.

I think those are the only major questions I have for now.

Thanks!

itzMS

1. When addressing the Save the Dates, do I add the "and Guest" to the envelope to let people know that they will be allowed to bring someone, whether they are in a relationship or not? I know that things and relationships can change 8-9 months before the wedding, so I figured I would play it safe and not address the envelopes with specific guests names unless they are married or living together.

Up to you. If you are 100% giving every single person a plus-one, then go for it. If you aren't quite sure yet, address it to the person only.
Anyone who identifies themselves in a relationship should be invited with their SO by name. Obviously, if they happen break up, you don't have to invite the ex. That's pretty well understood.

2. Do couples who do not live together get one Save the Date to only one address but addressed to the both of them or do they each get their own sent to their respective places? I know that they have been talking about getting engaged (YAY for them I would be excited they have been together for over 10 years, since HS) and moving in together. She does spend a couple of nights a week at his place, but as far I know they aren't officially living together.

What I did was call up the person I'm closer to, and ask where they would like me to send the Save the Date/Invite.
Example: "Hey, Annie! FI & I are gathering addresses for our save the dates and invitations. Where should we send the one for you and Mike?"

Kate61487

A. Definitely true for invitations; can go either way on STDs (some people do a "one per fridge" rule for magnets especially).  We did STDs the same as invitations and were pleased with it.

B.  good :-)

1.  If you know they're in a relationship (even just bf/gf) you should include the bf/gf's name, not "and guest".  If the couple breaks up you are not expected to still invite the ex that you have no relationship with.  This also means if they break up you don't have to give them a +1

2.  Invitations and STDs we sent to one person with both names. 

FizzySips

I don't have the etiquette answer, but I'm curious to see what the general consensus is.

For me (and I will admit that I sent my Save the Dates before I started lurking on TK) I sent one Save the Date per household, regardless of how many invites I would be sending. The envelope had everyone's names on the outside (ie: Steve, Lori, Shelby and Stephanie Meyer). I also didn't make a mention of guests (though each person over 18 is invited with guest and the invitations will reflect such).

TheBaysideBride

1) i don't think you need to say and guest - it's just for that particular person to mark their calendars. 

2) Just send to the primary relationship to you (your cousin iand his gf should be sent to your cousin).

hope that helps!