I'm very upset about how my France's ex is behaving about my (soon to be) stepdaughter. She almost refused to allow my stepdaughter to come to our wedding. She agreed only when FI threatened to contact a lawyer about it. (She already takes every single opportunity to violate the custody agreement making up excuses and lies about why we can't have my stepdaughter during the times we are supposed to.)
Now, our wedding is in Cancun, which I understand. But there were numerous ways to fly my stepdaughter with or to us and Ex refused all of them. So, what they apparently agreed on was that we would pay for Ex's ticket to fly to Mexico with stepdaughter (we are of course paying for stepdaughters ticket). But ex stated that she's "already swallowing her pride" by bringing SD and they will not come in until 130-2pm on the day of the wedding. The wedding starts at 530. And she wants stepdaughter back The next morning first thing.
Fine. I have no say in this apparently. We've done everything to make this easy for Ex. We even bought the bridesmaid dress ourselves, picked it up and then mailed it to them. (she is a bridesmaid and has been very excited about the wedding, her dress and having her hair done).
I had been under the impression that stepdaughter would be coming straight to the resort from the airport at that time. I was hiring a person to come to the room so she could have her hair done like the other bridesmaids.
Last night I was told that Ex has now decided that she is going to take stepdaughter to Ex's resort room (different then wedding venue), get daughter dressed there, do daughters hair herself and then drop her off at our wedding venue a little bit before the wedding.
I am both furious and super upset about this. I'm just like "Come on! You have to be fricking kidding me". I feel like Ex is doing every possible thing to minimize stepdaughters interaction at the wedding. Also, SD and I have a great relationship and I want my new daughter there for as much as possible and I was excited that we would be getting ready at the same time (a bonding thing). Now I feel like that is taken away from me and her by her mother. It makes me so angry and hurt!
Practically, it makes no sense for SD to arrive at the resort just before the wedding either. People will be rushing around, she tends to be a little anxious, we are doing wedding party photos before the ceremony, etc. having her arrive 3.5 hrs before ceremony started was already upsetting, but now even less time?!
Unfortunately, I have no rights and no say in this matter. Fiancé only gets upset if I vocalize my feelings as he states he feels torn.
Am I just overreacting and completely out of line by being angry and upset that SD won't be getting to the wedding until an hour before?!
"Always be kinder than you think is necessary, for you never know what personal battles people are fighting."