Dear Prudie,
My girlfriend is a beautiful, funny, and intelligent young woman and I'm very lucky to have her in my life. We met in college, we know each other's families, and are each other's best friends. I've been with her for almost two years and I would like to start a life with her. There's only one issue—as a Muslim, I feel my future wife has to believe in God. I'm not the strictest of Muslims, I occasionally drink and don't follow everything written in the Quran, but my girlfriend is an atheist. She says she’s open to believing, but that is a requirement in order for our marriage to be valid within Islam and so that we can marry in a mosque. I want that not only for religious reasons but because it’s a cultural and familial tradition. We've talked about her converting but it's usually ended up with us brushing it aside or with her being hurt because she says I can't love her for who she is. Of course I love her and want to be with her but I also want my future marriage to be validated by my religion and accepted by God. But I don't want to pressure her into converting, either. What do I do?