Vent// lost income

smbenevides1989

My fiance called me this morning and told me he lost his job. Our wedding is in two months and we still don't have enough to pay off the balances. I think we have about half the payments we need. I don't know what to do, and I can't ask for money from our familes (his parents aren't paying crap and my parents are helping with what they can). I'm hoping that whatever i get from my bridal shower this weekend will help, but I don't even know anymore. I think i'm on the verge of a breakdown. :'(
I've heard of wedding loans, but I am so afraid to take one out. Has anyone dealt with one before?
tia

Wzz

if he doesn't have income, it is going to be difficult to get a loan that you cannot pay back.

i am not sure what other advice to give, other than giving this more than a day to sort out. at the end of the week you should be able to think more clearly.

then, next week, speak to your vendors about their policies on postposning your wedding until you can pay off the balances. your FI will also need time to look for a new job, apply for unemployment, and basically deal with losing his job. you might also want to try cutting back on whatever you can if you keep your date, like video, flowers, limos. anything that you can cut, i would start doing it now.

it happens. but i would strongly suggest doing all you possibly could to spend as little as possible untl you start having an income again.

zsazsa-stl

Anything you can cut at this point? 

What are his chances of finding another job quickly?

Sorry that you are dealing with this.  Unemployment sucks.

Trollytrollface

In Response to Re:Vent// lost income:[QUOTE] hisI parents aren't paying crap Posted by smbenevides1989[/QUOTE] I give you a total side eye for that statement! It is your wedding, not his parents. Even if you want to look at it from a traditional stand point, the grooms parents are not supposed to pay for the wedding. I am sorry that you are going through this, but don't blame your future husband's parents!

Heffalump

Ugh, I'm sorry.  I'm recently unemployed myself and it really sucks.

Zilla is right, definitely give it more than a day before you start making decisions.  You'll think more clearly once things have time to sink in and you've both slept on it.

From there, I would definitely recommend cutting whatever you can at this point:  cut back on flowers if possible, cut out programs (if you're doing them), change the menu, etc.  And if you have to postpone altogether, it won't be the end of the world.  He'll find another job, life goes on.