Dear Prudence,
I have a wonderful toddler and am pregnant with my second child. Mother's Day doesn't feel very special to me because since I’ve been a mother it’s been an argument on to how to spend the day. My parents live three hours away, and I'd like to see my mother and 92-year-old grandmother, whom I see only every other month. My husband’s family lives 10 minutes away and my mother-in-law watches my toddler (for free) every day. I'm grateful, but she and I have never had a good relationship. She’s stated that in-laws aren't really part of the family, that you are nice to them because you are supposed to be. If we spend time with my parents for a weekend, she guilt-trips my husband into spending more time with his family the following weekend. She’s exhausting. This year, I'd like to just ignore Mother's Day. My husband doesn't want to see my parents because he doesn't want to leave his mother out. He’d rather visit his mother and let my son and me see my parents for the weekend. My husband and I both have siblings who will be there to celebrate with our mothers. Am I being unreasonable in thinking I should have some say in Mother's Day, and that it could be a day where I sleep in, don't have to clean, or change diapers? A holiday where we can just do what we want as a family?